So, there wasn’t a ‘happy ever after’. You’re on your own once again    for better or worse. Right now, you think that your world is crumbling around you. And the future never looked bleaker.

But remember, it’s always the darkest just before dawn. The darkness doesn’t stay on forever. Not in reality. But it might stay on in your mind. Because you choose not to let the light in.

Maybe it’s time to change your mindset. And have a stronger attitude towards life, and about yourself.

The first thing you need to do for yourself, is to accept the situation for exactly what it is. No matter how painful it could be. Unless you accept the pain, you can never get over it. You need to cry and give vent to your negative emotions. Only then will you be able to find peace. Going into denial never helps. The ghosts of the past will keep returning to haunt time and again.

If you’re trembling inside, there is no need to put on a brave front. Most people need help at some phase in their lives. There is no shame in asking for help. Your friends and family would be a lot more understanding than you think. With their help, try to lead as normal a life as possible.

Remember, the healing process takes time. There will be progress, but you will regress occasionally too. Accept it all as normal. Allow yourself to cry. Maybe you need a support group. Talking to others who have been through the same ordeal always helps. You could get some valuable input and advice from them.

Don’t, at any cost, neglect your health. Make sure you eat nutritious food and have your daily workouts. No matter how reluctant you are. No matter how senseless it seems. Your diet and fitness will be the two factors that help you heal the most.

Think positively about your ability to cope. Let go your loss and look to the future for fresh options. Develop new interests. Make new friends. Change your lifestyle. Be interested in life once again. Make it a point to be curious about things going on in the world, in your country, in your community, in your neighbourhood.

Thank God for your renewed strength. You’re on your way to a normal life.