Take a close look at the modern day divorce trends. What strikes you first is that education, wealth, commitment and smartness have nothing to do with what leads to eventual separation or divorce. This is both confounding and scary. In fact, most singles shy away from marriage only for the fear of making a wrong choice which might end up in a messy and heartbreaking divorce.When you realize that none of the above mentioned things are a factor or play a role in preventing the marriage from becoming a mere divorce statistic, you can see that things start to go wrong right at the beginning of the relationship itself – in fact it begins with the so-called chemistry the couple thinks they have.

The majority of couples, when asked by parents why they have chosen each other, say that it is mainly because of the amazing chemistry between them. In most cases, this chemistry is subconsciously to do with physical appearances and is generally to do with the sexual attraction. The sad part is that it takes hardly six months for this so-called chemistry to evaporate, unless the foundation is strengthened by other compatibility factors. When the chemistry no longer plays a role in sustaining the marriage, the affected couples try to work extra hard on the marriage out of guilt feelings when they discover that the attraction towards the partner has waned. Pity, kindness or simply obligation takes over and the marriage limps on without any real bonding or love between the couple.
Work pressures as a factor

Society today has undergone tremendous change and this is mainly due to the work ethics which demand long and committed work hours with little time for family and relaxation. God forbid if the wife is unemployed and simply waits endlessly for the husband to come home and relieve her of her boredom! Complexities in marriage are on the upswing with both partners having to do a complete analysis of each other’s needs and trying to meet demands at least halfway. Tremendous willpower is the need of the day and unless there is a holistic approach, divorce and unhappiness will soon take over.
Final analysis

To get back to the beginning, it is often said, especially when a movie has unprecedented success, “It’s all in the casting!” It is the initial decision that has to be taken very carefully as that is when the fate of a marriage is usually decided. Make your choice wisely; give it serious thought, weigh the pros and cons well before zeroing in on your mate as it is the one decision that is going to make or break your marriage. Any follow-up action like trying to save a failing marriage will usually be futile and any idea that one can ‘make a marriage work’ rarely works out. Societal pressures may make a couple hesitate to take the final step and they may try to continue in an empty relationship which in no way tackles the root of the problem.

So if you are on the threshold of a relationship, check it out from all points before you decide on marriage. Take into account factors other than ‘magical chemistry’, check out comfort and compatibility levels before you decide that this relationship is for the long haul. Good luck!