I dated this really great guy right out of high school until I left for the Army. While I was in basic training I used my five minute phone call to talk to him. He was out and his brother said that he was cheating on me. I was already stressed from basic training, and most guys that I know are cheats. So I broke, and sent him a rude letter. I am back home now and see him often because we live in a small town. He is engaged to a girl, but has put off the wedding twice because, according to his friends and mom I still talk to, he is still in love with me. I still love him, but I do not plan on staying here in this town. I was not born and raised here like him, and so I am not attached to the place. I talked to him last night and we got along great which made me really miss him and feel awful for the way I broke up with him without listening to his side. Should I apologize to him even though it has been a few months, or should I not stir up the past and just let it go? Help please! -Fixing A Bad Breakup

Dear Fixing A Bad Breakup,
Handling an issue that hasn’t been cleared is typically a good idea. I think it would help you both to move forward with your prospective lives. The only problem I see is if you feel that because you apologized he will want to be with you instead of his fiance. You can’t expect that. He obviously cares enough about the person to have proposed. If he wants to break things off with her he needs to do it because it was his decision. He shouldn’t be doing it because he may think he has someone else who might want to be with him waiting in the corner. Doing so will only make you both have “what if” questions running through your mind whenever you run into problems in the relationship. If a relationship is to transpire, and for it to actually work, you both need to come to it with a clean slate. Honestly though, if you’re planning on leaving anyway, it may just be better to say your apologies and let sleeping dogs lie.