I love my ex-boyfriend more than anything in this world. He was my first love, and we were together for two years. Now, he is with another girl. I didn’t want to believe it at first. I wanted to believe his lies that he loved me, and I fought so hard to be with him. Now, I just called his house and she answered. I am so upset. I feel like the world is ending, and if I can’t be with him I will never find anyone else I am going to love that much. Please help me with some good advice. -Missing Him

Dear Waiting For Him,
Some people hold truth to the myth that there is only ONE love for you out there. This could not be farther from the truth. Humans have the ability to deeply love any person they choose to. True we may have a stronger, intimate connection with some, but it doesn’t mean it can only happen once. For whatever reason, this relationship isn’t the right one for you. If it were, you’d still be in it. When you’re feeling down, remember that. Know that your special someone is out there, and when you’re ready you WILL find him. But, you have to start looking ahead of you to find him. He isn’t going to be trailing in your shadows.

I also suggest getting ready for the future by keeping a daily journal to help you release your feelings. It never helps to keep things bottled up, and a journal provides the perfect “safe” escape. I also feel helping others is a great way to take the focus off of yourself. Join a forum, such as the ones here and help or just talk with other people going through the same experiences. Knowing you’re not the only one goes a long way to improving your outlook on things.

We all have our own paths to take. Unfortunately, they don’t always go the direction we thought we were intended for. In time, you’ll realize this is actually for your benefit. Something wonderful that you never dreamed would happen will be just around the corner on your new path. Just sit tight and have faith in yourself.