I have been dating this guy for about two months now and I would like to take things to the next level with him. However, he has expressed to me that he is not looking for a relationship, but enjoys the time that we spend together and does not want that to end. He also says that it is possible that we could become more committed in the future. But, I feel like the more time we spend together, the more attached I become. I enjoy the time that we spend together as well and would like for it to continue. We have a good time together and seem to have a good connection, but things aren’t going that way. Should I stick around and continue to enjoy the good times or just move on?
–Unlucky In Love

When you’re looking for someone to become serious with, you need to devote all your attention to the task. If you’ve got someone who you enjoy being with, but is taking you away from your main goal, it’s a distraction. I would approach your situation in a casual way. Continue to go out on dates with him, maybe once or twice a month. In the meantime, start looking for someone else who has the same long-term goals as you do. If he changes his mind, great! If not, you’ll still get to enjoy the time with him, and hopefully develop a great friendship you can maintain long-term.