I have been dating this guy for about two months now and I would like to take things to the next level with him. However, he has expressed to me that he is not looking for a relationship, but enjoys the time that we spend together and does not want that to end. He also says that it is possible that we could become more committed in the future. But, I feel like the more time we spend together, the more attached I become. I enjoy the time that we spend together as well and would like for it to continue. We have a good time together and seem to have a good connection, but things aren’t going that way. Should I stick around and continue to enjoy the good times or just move on?
–Unlucky In Love

When you’re looking for someone to become serious with, you need to devote all your attention to the task. If you’ve got someone who you enjoy being with, but is taking you away from your main goal, it’s a distraction. I would approach your situation in a casual way. Continue to go out on dates with him, maybe once or twice a month. In the meantime, start looking for someone else who has the same long-term goals as you do. If he changes his mind, great! If not, you’ll still get to enjoy the time with him, and hopefully develop a great friendship you can maintain long-term.

Does that look across the room mean they want you to come over? Is the way he laughs at your stories a signal he wants your phone number? Most times, to know what someone is truly thinking you’d need a crystal ball, but if you pay attention to the signals their body is sending, you may finally be able to throw away that tarot deck! The next time you’re out on a date, watch for the following signs that show they may be more interested than you think!

1. Extended Physical Contact
Start paying attention to the little things. Does their hand accidentally touch yours? If so, how do they react? Notice whether they jerk it away quickly, or just simply leave it there. The more comfortable they are with close interaction, the more interested they probably are.

2. Lengthy Conversations or Frequent Communication
If someone frequently seeks you out to talk, or you share longer conversations than typical, it’s a pretty good indicator that they may be interested, or at least open to becoming more than friends or acquaintances. Next time you find this happening, take the next move and ask them if they’d like to go somewhere with you.

3. Spends More Time With You Than Typical
Let’s face it, you don’t spend time with people you don’t like. If someone tends to make it a point to always be around you, chances are there is a reason. Find out if they’re interest is a romantic one and arrange to do a few things with them alone, like going to the movies or out to eat.

4. They Go Out Of They’re Way To Be Nice
Pay attention to people who seem to be doing more than necessary for you. Are they always offering to buy you a drink? Do they frequently offer to drive you places? Do they always open doors for you? See if they are doing these things solely for your benefit, and watch to see if they are doing the same things for other people as well.

5. They Are Genuinely Interest In You
Is the person you’re with truly interested in how you are doing? Do they offer advice and counsel when you need it most? Are they always there for you? If so, you may need to make sure you haven’t been looking for love in the wrong places. Remember, some of the best romances are based on friendship.

How can you tell if someone is flirting with you? Body language says a lot when it comes to flirtation. Just watch a person’s eyes, lips, face, hands and legs to observe all the ways in which they are attracting the person that they like with their body gestures.

Body Language FlirtingThe most effective way to flirt is with the eyes. So much can be said by how someone looks at someone. Does a person stare or give a loving gaze and look away. A person’s eyes are windows to the soul and they can express so much without words. A person’s pupils even change depending on how interested they are in what they are looking at. For instance, a person’s pupils have been known to dilate if they are interested and contact if they are not. This is just something a person can observe if they want to assess someone’s interest in them.

Also, women often use their hair as a way to flirt with someone who they are interested in. If a woman wants to get the attention of someone they like, they will often play with their hair. Men fall for this too, as there is often nothing as sexy as a woman playing with her hair in front of him.

Face and mouth play a big part in flirting too. For example a warm, interested smile is usually very luring and attractive. People are drawn to sexy facial expressions. A person’s mouth is so expressive too, both by how it looks and what comes out of it.

Hands and arms can be sexy also when someone is flirting. If a certain part of a person’s arm is exposed, it conveys a feeling of openness. On the other hand, if a person’s arms are folded or crossed, they are making themselves unapproachable through their body language. If a person is close to another people who they are flirting with, they may want to casually touch that person throughout their conversation with them. Keep in mind that any light caresses express sexual desire. Men and women each have areas of their body, which are more sensual than others. A person needs to decide where they should touch another person in public so that they can flirt effectively yet discretely.

Legs are also very effectively used in flirting. If a woman crosses her legs for instance, this can be very sexy. Men on the other hand, should not cross their legs. If a man and woman are sitting close to each other without their legs crossed, this can appear very sexy and luring.

Finally, it is important to stay playful. For instance, a flirting woman may play with her jewelry while talking to a man. Sometimes she will play with her beverage or play with something on the table where she is sitting. Watch and observe body language, as it says it all!

There are many romantic gestures that couples can do for each other to put some extra passion into their relationship. It is often the small things that mean the most when it comes to expression of love. You don’t have to spend a lot of money, just be creative and thoughtful!

Romantic GesturesFirst of all, compliments go a long way! Sometimes just to tell your loved one that they look good means so much. Everyone wants to feel attractive to the person that they are in a relationship with and a small compliment can go a long way in boosting self-esteem and security in the relationship.

Another thing that is well received in a relationship is hand written letters, cards and notes to your significant other. Personal gestures like these show your loved one that you love them enough to go the extra mile to express your affection to them in creative and personalized ways. The fun part of doing this sort of thing is that you get to hide or position these loving notes in creative places to get the attention of your partner. Perhaps you can stick a note in your partner’s lunch bag or pocket or even on their pillow. You might want to add the extra touch of passion and spray a fragrance on this letter, card or note. Scents are very passionate and suggestive and make a big impression on the person you love.

Pampering is also a very romantic thing to do for your loved one. For instance, surprise your partner some night after they get home from work. Have a special dinner made for them or order some food in. Set the table in a romantic way including a nice flower and some dinner candles. Decorate the bathroom with candles and have a hot bath ready, complete with bubble bath and soft music playing. Put rose petals on the floor, leading to the bedroom and into the bed. Burn scented oil, which will set the mood for romance such as jasmine or vanilla oil. Buy some colorful new towels to brighten up the bathroom. Sometimes a few new colorful additions can brighten up a room and make a big impression!

Another thing that makes a big impact is a decadent dessert. Maybe you can get a fancy cheesecake from a nearby bakery and enjoy a fancy dessert together in candlelight. If you are having a cheesecake or another fancy cake, cut a decent sized slice and put it in the center of a big plate. Decorate the dessert and plate with whip cream and chocolate or butterscotch sauce. Squeeze the sauce into creative swirls on the dessert plate. It will look outstanding and your partner will be so impressed. You may even want to make a couple specialty coffees to go with this dessert. Irish Cream or Kahlua make fine additions to a fresh coffee. Top the coffee with a bit of whip cream and a touch of cinnamon. Cinnamon will bring that extra touch of passion into the evening. Be creative and have fun and romance will fill the air!

ody language combined with effective verbal communication can be a powerful way to attract a person. If a man or women uses their body to sensually express their attraction, combined with saying the right things, a new relationship could evolve. One should never underestimate the sensual power of body language.

Power of Body Language One of the most powerful forms of body language involves the eyes. They say that the eyes reveal a person’s soul, and this is very true. When you look into someone’s eyes, you see a glimpse of the spirit of a person. When two people look into each other’s eyes a certain spiritual energy is exchanged. Human eyes can say so much. A glance can sometimes say it all. If there is a strong attraction between two people, the eyes reveal this powerful message.

Sometimes it is just the way a person moves that can be attractive to a person. Maybe it is the way a person stands or the way they walk which is sexy. Often people have their own unique gestures that are luring. A certain laugh or a unique smile can be very sexy.

Everyone has a presence about them that makes them different from everyone else and it is this blend of gestures and mannerisms that make them who they are and makes them attractive to others.

People often express themselves with their hands when they are talking and this can make a strong impression on a person. Hand gestures combined with expressive tone in conversation can make a person very animated and interesting to other people. When hand gestures and conversations are combined with smiles and laughter, a person can become very attractive to others.

Fingers and Toes can be sexy too. If you are talking to someone and they are playing with their hair with their fingers, they are sensually saying that they are attracted. Ladies footwear that exposes the toes can be very attractive. There is something about seeing toes with a bright colored polish, which is often sexy to a man. Toe rings can be a sexy touch too. When a woman’s foot looks this way and she crosses her legs and moves her foot in a sensual way, it can often get a man’s full attention.

When dancing, people can use their body language very effectively as they move to the music in each other’s embrace. The gentle sway of the hips combined with the swishing of long hair and the sensual motion of arms, hands and feet can be very sexy. Sometimes the way a person holds their glass when they are drinking something is sensual. Also, watch how a person drinks something. A person’s lips are one of the sexiest parts of their body. Let all your senses awaken and be stimulated by the power of body language!

There are so many types of hugs that it is hard to know where to start in explaining their differences. So many variables affect the types of a hug that people give each other. For instance, people’s height, weight, age and their relationship, all determine the kinds of hugs that they give each other. Not to mention whether the huggers are men, women, friends or lovers!

Hug Types First, there is the friendly hug. This type of hug usually happens between friends of either the opposite or the same sex. Family members also give each other these types of hugs. It is a caring, yet short embrace and may or may not involve a kiss on the cheek, depending on the situation and who the people are to each other. Generally, family member hugs include a kiss on the cheek but not always. If a younger person is hugging a senior relative or friend, the younger person often kisses the older person on the cheek. The kiss on the cheek is both a sign of respect and friendly caring or affection. The older people may also kiss the younger person on the cheek, or forehead. These types of hugs are usually done while standing or sitting down.

Next, we have the romantic hug, which is for lovers! This hug is a close and extended embrace that expresses love and passion for each other. It is almost always accompanied by kissing, which may also be very close and extended. The romantic hug is sexy and usually leads to even further intimacy and romance. This can be a hug that happens while standing up, sitting down or lying down together. The closer the better for romantic hugs!

We also have the hug that expresses that you have missed someone. This is like the friendly hug, but it usually last longer and may even involve the two people jumping up and down together or swinging each other around in circles. If you want to see examples of this kind of hugging, just go to the airport and observe people as they reunite in the arrival area. Much the same type of hugging will take place in the departure area in an airport. To hug someone before they leave on a trip or when they return from a trip, is very sentimental and makes a lasting impression on both people.

Another kind of hug is one that people give each other as a form of congratulations after an achievement. For example, when someone has a birthday or a graduation it is not uncommon to give them a hug for congratulations. Hugs are a warm and friendly way to express appreciation of another person. The embrace of another person expresses a certain feeling of union and caring. A hug can lift a person’s spirits and put a smile on their face. Be open to the joy of giving and receiving hugs as they serve as a meaningful form of human contact and expression.

If you really enjoy meeting people but tend to get nervous in social settings, there are a few things you can do to improve your situation. Above all, you must generate a positive attitude about it. If you think of socializing as stressful and difficult, others will sense that and be reluctant to approach you. Transmit confidence with positive body language and facial expressions. Stand up straight-don’t slouch. Make brief eye contact (not a blatant stare) instead of turning away or looking at the floor. If you get nervous, encourage contact and conversation by carrying a prop such as a book or magazine or an eye-catching accessory. Such an item will give others with common interests a reason to come over and talk to you.

Nervous people tend to sag their shoulders, lock their arms tightly around their bodies, stand rigidly, and stare at the ground or dart their eyes around. Confident people have an open stance, make eye contact, and lean toward the person they’re talking to. If close enough, they often show interest by lightly brushing your arm or shoulder to make a point.

Another way to be approachable, even if your heart is pounding with anxiety, is just to breathe deeply and smile. It’s hard to feel negative when there’s a smile on your face. The smile is a universal symbol of friendship and it draws people to you. Smile often and (as the old song says) the whole world will smile with you!

Body language can turn people away but it can also invites them to approach you. Some “do’s” and “don’ts”.

Don’ts:

* Lack of eye contact
* Continual throat-clearing
* Covering mouth with hands
* Tugging at clothes
* Jingling things in pockets
* Fidgeting with accessories or clothes
* Hand-wringing
* Frowning or grimacing
* Stepping backward or away

Do’s

* Steady eye contact
* Smiling
* Leaning toward a person
* Sitting on the edge of a chair
* Periodic hand-to-face gestures
* Moistening or licking lips
* Watching someone else’s mouth as he talks
* Arms at sides, as opposed to crossed
* Brief physical contact (nonsexual)
* Pointing arms, legs, or feet or all of the body toward a person

One of the major ways to improve communication is through better eye and face contact. If you do not appear interested or to be listening, communication will definitely not occur. This is true whether or not there is physical attraction.

In order to be more attractive to the opposite sex, you need to maintain good eye and facial contact. You need to look directly at the person when you speak to him or her. You need to smile, look at the person, and not shy away.

Look at the person’s eyes for a few moments, then look at their nose, their mouth, their chin, and then their entire face. All this should take just a few seconds. Then repeat the process. By doing this, you will appear as though you are genuinely listening to the other person. Your interest will show.

For instance, Jeremy was very attracted to Crystal, whom he met at a party. Yet, Jeremy panicked and became shy when he realized he was interested in her. During their conversation, instead of ooking directly at her, he looked down and off to the side, which made him appear as ifhe definitely was not interested in her. When Jeremy did manage to look at her, his head was cocked at an angle, which also gave the impression he didn’t really care about her.

On top of that, Jeremy appeared to be paying more attention to Crystal’s hands than to her face. In reality, Jeremy wasn’t even thinking about her hands. Yet, he was so uncomfortable and had such poor eye contact that he just zeroed in on her hands, which was a total turn-off to Crystal who quickly ended their acquaintance and walked away.

Lack of eye contact is a typically male trait that can be changed; what happened to Jeremy does not have to happen to you. Yet, communication should also go beyond the face and eyes, as the voice and body also convey rejection or acceptance.

Men and women differ in many ways, many subtle and many much more noticeable. In their body language, men, while sharing some similarities, are quite different than women. And, head gestures, in particular, can tell a woman a lot about a man. Specific gestures or head posture can say a lot of things he doesn’t say with words.

Do you ever see a man tilt his head in the same way a woman does? Not usually. In fact, think about a man and a woman talking in a bar. A man will probably tend to stand centered and not move his head nearly as much as a woman. This is tied to an ancient and primitive need for a man to be strong and steadfast, showing his dominance to get a mate and food. So, a man will not move his head as much as a woman and that is the first thing that a woman needs to understand. Sometimes, a man may seem to be staring a hole in the back of your head. In fact, he may not be suffering from any condition; he may just be asserting stoic and very still manhood. This can still be uncomfortable for some women but shouldn’t be feared…in most cases.

For many men, though, direct eye contact is not something they prefer with women. They may periodically stare you down but men tend to converse with their head at an angle. So, if you find a man looking at you from an angle off center, that is normal.

Men don’t tend to look down, though, unless they lack confidence or are really shy. This might be a sign of weakness. In fact, studies show that women are attracted to the Alpha male confidence. So, most men always keep their head up and their gaze level. The only time that this may change is if you, as a woman, get into a man’s heart.

If a man does tilt his head down, especially after you’ve given him that special look, he is probably interested in you and doesn’t want to just stare at you, not yet anyway. You’ve probably seen this sort of exchange between a woman and a man. A man notices a woman and can’t help but look at her beauty. She looks over and sees him staring. Finding him interesting, she looks back to give him a good inspection. In that locking of the gazes, the man will sometimes look down, sometimes after a wry smile, because he is overcome by the woman’s beauty.

At times, man will tilt his head upwards, as well. If he tilts his head high, this may be a sign of arrogance. It can also mean that he is studying you as he is not sure what to make of you. Men are simple creatures and, when confronted with a complex, intriguing and beautiful woman, they may raise their heads as their brains go to work trying to analyze what they are observing.

Now, men do sometimes tilt their heads to the side. Sometimes, this is just a sign of confusion, trying to figure out the current situation. If the tilt angle is great and he is talking to a woman, he may be trying to imagine what it would be like to be lying down with this woman. So, if you are conversing with a man and he tilts his head and smiles, he is interested, very interested.

The head nod is another gesture to watch for in a man. In most cultures around the world, the head nod is used to signify a positive or affirmative response to what is being said. Scientists say that this is innate behavior in many primates, including humans. Thus, when a man is nodding, they are probably agreeing with us. But, this is not always the case. A nod can connote agreement. It could also be a sign of impatience. Men are not talkers and women are. If a man thinks you are talking too much, he may just continue to nod his head as you talk on and on. If you, as a woman, are talking at great length and the man you are conversing with is just nodding his head, you can rest assured that he may not even be listening to you. His mind could be on the Monday night football game.

The style of a head nod is important, too. If a man nods by lowering his head first, he may be nodding in caution. Sometimes, a man will do this on the first encounter with a woman. It is a cautious gesture of interest as he still has his primitive guard up. If a man raises his head and then nods, there’s a good chance he is more secure in his greeting or, in conversation, he is in happy agreement with what you are saying. If a man nods slowly and deliberately at you, he is probably not only attracted to what you are saying but attracted to you, as well.

Now, if you are in conversation with a man and you get a head shake (like shaking your head No), that is a sign of disagreement and their internal dialogue is one of disbelief in what you are saying. It is good to explore, think about what you were saying and what he would be disagreeing with. And, if a man jerks his head to one side quickly while he is talking to you, he may be lying.

Head gestures are a very important part of body language. Understanding how a man uses these signs can help you tell if he is interested in you and give you clues on how to best have your way with him, whatever that way may be.

There are many differences between men and women, some subtle and some more noticeable. Body language is the big term these days and is one of the noticeable areas where the sexes can differ. But, unlike general body language analysis, there are specific parts of the body that can give specific clues as to what a man or woman is thinking.

Head posture or gestures can say a lot that words do not say. Men and women use their heads in different, though, similar ways, though. Have you watched a man and woman talk in a bar? What is going on with the woman’s head? The man is usually looking straight at her, even through her.

But, what do women do? If they are not interested in a man, they usually continue to look around the room. She may look down and to the side or even raise her head in a sort of arrogant pose. These are all signs of non-interest. If she is interested, she may initially look down but, usually, straight down, in a humble, “I’m yours”, sort of way. When she looks at the man, she will look him straight in the eye to see if she can detect his honesty. Once she is interested, she will probably tilt her head, as well. All these head movements are part of a language that we will explore in greater detail. They will give you cues to know exactly what a woman is think, and feeling.

So, we’ve said that the head can be tilted up or down. This can mean different things depending on context and inner dialogue. If a woman tilts her head down and looks to the side with rolling eyes, you know that she is not interested or has found your conversation a little too much. If she tilts her head down, however, and looks towards her feet or the front of her body, she is showing that she may submit this body and heart to you. Not right away, mind you. She may actually look down and then look back up into a man’s eyes. This is a good sign. Note, though, that if a woman tilts her head down and keeps her eyes glaring at you, she is probably feeling hostile. Watch out.

Now, what if she tilts her head upwards? If a woman tilts her head upwards at a high angle, she is either arrogant or feeling intimidated. If it is an arrogant gesture, she thinks that you are an idiot and wishes that you would go away. Now, if you’ve only just approached her, she may find you intimidating; try to relax her fears by showing her what a nice guy you are. Crack a joke or tell a friendly story - like the one when you helped the elderly lady across the street. If she tilts her head up, looks sideways, and smiles, you’ve probably said something that really amused her. Quickly think back to what it was and keep that theme alive. However, if she tilts her head back and squints, she thinks you’re a liar. Say something truthful really, really quickly.

So far, we’ve talked about head tilts up or down. Now, what does it mean to have a woman tilt her head to the side? This is a behavior that you’ll find more in women than men. Have you ever had a woman look deep into your eyes and tilt her head slightly? It can send shivers of joy down your spine.

So, how can we interpret head tilting to the side? Well, if a woman tilts her head to the side at a slight angle, she is showing her interest, and her sensitivity. If she tilts her head and pushes her face forward she is either trying to understand something you are saying or trying to kiss you. Either is a good sign you are not totally boring her. If she pulls her head back while tilting slightly, you may have said something to cause her to suspect that you are lying or stretching the truth. Or, she is developing a growing distrust. You should try and change that right away.

If she tilts her head at a medium angle (especially if she furls her brow), she is confused by something you are saying or doing. Try to find out what this is. If she pushes her face forward at this medium angle, she is really questioning you and practically calling you a liar. If she pushes her face back, she is really questioning your veracity.

Now, if she tilts her head at a large angle, she may be inviting you to get horizontal with her. She is showing you a large degree of her neck and exposing her skin for you to take in. If she smiles when she does this, pay both bills and take her away from the crowd.

Another head gesture to decipher is the head nod. The head nod is used in most cultures on earth to signify an affirmative or positive response to something that is being said or shown. Some scientists say that this is an innate behavior shown in many primates besides humans. If we apply this to understanding female head gestures, we know that if a woman is nodding, she is agreeing with everything we are saying, right? Well, maybe not. In fact, if she is nodding really fast, she may just be impatient with what you are saying. Speed and style is the key here.

If she nods by lowering her head first, she is nodding in caution. If she raises her head first, she is happily and optimistically agreeing with you. If she nods slowly and affirmatively, you have her undivided attention.

If you are engaged in conversation that is positive and you are getting the head shake (as in shaking one’s head No), she is probably disagreeing with you in her internal dialogue or is in a state of disbelief about what you are saying. Or, she just plain feels sorry for you! Always explore that response and try to provoke a positive, affirmative head nod, not a head shake.

And, if she jerks her head quickly to the side, she may be lying. Finally, there are two head gestures that, if you see, you are definitely in a woman’s good graces and field of interest. If she does a head toss, by throwing her head up and to the side so that her hair flies out of her face, she is most definitely interested in you. Also, if she is looking at you and does the infamous hair flip, ie. throwing her hair back, she wants to show you more of her face. This is also a very good sign.

Head gestures are an integral part of body language. Understanding how a woman uses these signs can help you not only tell if she is interested but allow you to maneuver correctly to end up taking her home and, maybe, to the church.

First of all you have to let other feel your presence and if possible your territory. You have to send the message that you are here and you have got some territory and have control on things. If you walk in a room or something, just make calculated moves, too much moves will show that you are uncomfortable. If you are sitting then try to use your personal things to mark your territory, like pen, Cell phone, Key chain, Keys anything that is available to you at that time.

You need to show that you are here and this belongs to you. If you are standing then do not  wrap your arms, this looks like you are not feeling good instead spread your arms and place them in pocket if possible , or at least one hand. You are here to send this message that you have arrived and you are a man , cool looking , this is my space and I’m comfortable here, and females may approach me…