Recently we received a request for viewpoints on whether people should live together before getting married. Well, after I was chosen as the lucky recipient of this task, I realized that every single person I knew had lived together before they got married. My wife and I lived together for about 3 months and out of all my friends, that was the shortest time. In fact, the only people I know that did not live together are my parents and they had an arranged marriage in India. Basically, my first thought on the subject was, “You mean there are people that don’t live together before they get married?” So, I decided to scrap my pre-conceived ideas and look into the pros and cons of living together before marriage.

When looking into how to write this piece, I wrestled with whether or not to include the religious aspect of living together. The fact that it is a religious sin in most of the main stream religions is the most common argument I have found against living together. The reasons it is classified as a sin are numerous but, most prevalent, is the fact that living together and having pre-marital sex go hand in hand. Now, although this is a profound and compelling argument if you subscribe to those religious beliefs, my own viewpoint on this is far more practical. For me, living with my wife prior to marriage was for 3 reasons: Firstly, I could not wait to be with her. We met over the Internet and I was living in the UK at the time. I knew I loved her and had no doubts at all that I would spend the rest of my life with her. As Billy Crystal says in ‘When Harry Met Sally’, when you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with someone, you want the rest of your life to begin as soon as possible! I quit my job, sold or gave away everything I could not take on a plane and flew out to San Diego. The second reason for us was that it was an economic necessity. With the expenses involved in getting married, it was impractical and illogical for me to stay in a hotel or furnish a new apartment. Thirdly, I am sure everyone will agree that the switch from an Internet romance to real life can be stressful at the best of times. In our case, it was prudent to live together for a while before we finally decided to get married as we did not have the luxury of real life dating to take the time to fully get to know each other. As it happens, everything worked out great between us and we will have been very happily married for two years in November.

This is not the only reason I feel this way. I have known people that have been living together for years and, from that experience, found out who their partner really was and that marriage was not right for them. There are things that you cannot really find out about a person until you live with them and if you are pressured into marrying the person, you may find out later that you have made a big mistake.

My viewpoint in writing this piece has therefore not changed. I do agree that people should live together before they are married, especially if they are on-line lovers that are planning on getting married. I would love to hear your viewpoints and experiences with this

I dated this really great guy right out of high school until I left for the Army. While I was in basic training I used my five minute phone call to talk to him. He was out and his brother said that he was cheating on me. I was already stressed from basic training, and most guys that I know are cheats. So I broke, and sent him a rude letter. I am back home now and see him often because we live in a small town. He is engaged to a girl, but has put off the wedding twice because, according to his friends and mom I still talk to, he is still in love with me. I still love him, but I do not plan on staying here in this town. I was not born and raised here like him, and so I am not attached to the place. I talked to him last night and we got along great which made me really miss him and feel awful for the way I broke up with him without listening to his side. Should I apologize to him even though it has been a few months, or should I not stir up the past and just let it go? Help please! -Fixing A Bad Breakup

Handling an issue that hasn’t been cleared is typically a good idea. I think it would help you both to move forward with your prospective lives. The only problem I see is if you feel that because you apologized he will want to be with you instead of his fiance. You can’t expect that. He obviously cares enough about the person to have proposed. If he wants to break things off with her he needs to do it because it was his decision. He shouldn’t be doing it because he may think he has someone else who might want to be with him waiting in the corner. Doing so will only make you both have “what if” questions running through your mind whenever you run into problems in the relationship. If a relationship is to transpire, and for it to actually work, you both need to come to it with a clean slate. Honestly though, if you’re planning on leaving anyway, it may just be better to say your apologies and let sleeping dogs lie.

My situation is probably one like many. I met a guy after a 13-year marriage, and thought I had finally found love again. We dated for 8 months and then he had to go back home to finish his term in the Navy. When he was done he would either come back for me or I would go there. When he left, he called me and told me he was married and separated, and was finalizing a divorce. I accepted that, but later got a phone call from his wife, who had a very different story. Since then his wife and I talk a lot over the phone. According to her, they have been separated over a year now, and the divorce is still not final because of him being sent overseas and such. The problem I am now having, is the day he left and called to tell me he was married, he went to her, stayed with her, and slept with her. He told her of me that night only because his wife found my stuff in his truck after he fell asleep and then called me to find out who I was. After all of this, I am having a hard time forgiving him even though I love him. And over the last year, I feel like I can’t trust him. Did he love me or am I just the only one of the two who stayed around for him? -Doubting His Affection

First of all, I think you need to look at your situation clearly. What is your ideal definition of a loving relationship? For most, it means having an open and honest line of communication, an ability to undoubtedly trust each other, equal levels of affection and sharing the same goals and dreams in life. If you take an honest look at your situation you’ll find it clearly lacks in comparison to this ideal. Just because you’ve found someone who shows interest in you doesn’t mean they are actually good for you. If you doubt him, it is understandable. The lies he told you are pretty significant. Do you really want to see yourself in this type of relationship for the rest of your life? Do you want to raise children with a parent you don’t trust? Be honest with yourself and you’ll find the right answer to your problem.

Balazs, with whom I’ve set up an interview after exchanging a few e-mails, tells a strange - almost unbelievable story. Perhaps if I did not see in his eyes and even motions that he is relieving the past, or feel in his voice the disappointment of a lover jaded, even I would not believe that all this had happened. He admits that I might judge him or laugh at him, but decides to share his secret. He is not revealing himself for the sake of attention, rather he would hope that others learn from his experience and donut fall into an emotional trap of falling madly in love with a woman who does not exist.

Balazs, you never actually met Helga, never touched her or heard her voice. Tell me, was it really love? Are you certain?

Believe me, I’ve experienced such deep feelings that I’ve not felt since my teen years. She moved into my life and everything changed. She turned my customary existence upside down. Once again I began to care about myself, my desire for life returned and began going to the gym, went to discos and lost about 10 kg. I devoured her messages, woke at the crack of dawn each day to have time to respond. I received over one hundred letters and I wrote her twice that many. Emotionally I was preparing for the personal meeting. Our relationship was passionate, we cared about each other in every way – don’t laugh, we even made love several times through e-mail.

How did your relationship begin and how long did it last?

Our correspondence began with the customary getting to know each other, but then became more intimate and intense. I felt that I became a part of her life, I was familiar with the slightest changes of her mood; there was no topic we had not discussed to the smallest detail. There was true love between us both - or at least, like a fool I thought so. Today I realize that I was merely the victim of somebody’s fantasy.

What was it that first made you suspicious?

There was a mysterious message on my recorder that made me think, and then the pictures Helga sent of herself also posed some questions in my mind. They seemed posed and nothing could be depicted of the surroundings. She was beautiful on them, but she did not strike me as a sweet girl, an amateur in front of the camera. The pictures suggested quite a different mood. There was something about the Love Story column I read in “Internet Kalauz” which made me realize that I must investigate what is behind my suspicions.

That is when you began to check around? How did you do it exactly?

Using the little information I had of the girl I’ve tried several search engines, then by using her picture. Initially, I’ve found nothing but then to my great surprise I’ve found a web page where Helga smiled back at me – only under a different name. Like a man possessed I began to look through all the details of the web page. It contained intimate photos of a model named Claudia, but provided no meaningful information about her. I’ve tried to establish contact with her by the e-mail address provided on the page – but it was not successful.

This was proof to you that your correspondence partner was lying to you. What happened after this?

In a somewhat mysterious letter I’ve let her know that I’ve found Claudia. This, of course, shook our relationship significantly. After some storms we’ve survived, we decided to continue – basically, because I could not face being without her. I loved Helga and the feeling I had thinking she was mine.

I would think your suspicions did not vanish. Didn’t you try to find certainty in some way?

Yes, of course. In fact, I was somewhat obsessed. Under a new name I’ve opened a mail box and placed an ad in the personals. Just as I’ve expected, it was not long before my ‘sweetheart’ showed up on the ‘hook’. There were several letters that I’ve recognized by the style to be my Helga’s, although they were written under the names of several different girls. I was beginning to comprehend that I was dealing with a many faced, habitual liar who was able to convince me of her lies. Emotionally she had me, I was in pieces. I was not her only victim – there were 5 names that I knew of concretely, under which she advertised, corresponded, lied and cheated without any inhibition.

How would you characterize her? How do you envision someone who penned letters that had such an impact on you?

There is a great possibility that the individual is a Hungarian male, with a rich and vivid imagination. Her letters are proof of that. She was able to represent herself as several characters without flaw in the story line. To add some color to our relationship, she’s invented trips she’d go on, for instance, one time to Hamburg saying she would not be able to write. A few days later she’d contact me as if she were her girlfriend Kriszti, saying she is watering the plants and feeding the parrot at Helga’s house during her absence. She’d made a pass at me and I was game to flirt with her. When Helga returned, she made me feel guilty for being unfaithful to her. She had the uncanny ability to pass off her inventions as reality.

What do you think motivated her?

I’ve thought about that myself, but I don’t have an answer. Maybe it was just sport, although after all that happened between us I find that hard to believe.

Looking back, do you know what kind of mistakes you’ve made during the relationship?

I should not have taken so seriously anyone with a hotmail address. I realize now that these free servers allow anyone to open several accounts under different names and can create as many identities as the imagination will allow – all without any consequence.

I think there is something else you need to tell us in order to complete your story. Why did you yourself, have to hide behind a hotmail address when you have a paid subscription that provides you with a legitimate address?

I can’t throw stones at anyone since I was no different from the one that fooled me in this way. I’ve long fantasized about two women having an intimate relationship, and I’ve placed an ad as Klara, a lesbian girl. This is how I’ve first got in touch with Helga. What is truly bizarre that during this sensuous acquaintance my male side became dominant and and I fell passionately in love with Helga. Helga who does not exist and the pictures of her really show a mysterious model named Claudia and whose letters were potentially written by a maniac, a stranger who thought of this as entertainment.

Why did you want to go public with your story?

I was crazy and blind and there will be those who’ll judge me and not understand how I could get to this level. I think I’ve learned from the events and for this reason I thought perhaps telling it will be helpful to others. Primarily I would like to caution those who like me, naively throw themselves into the social life of the world wide web assuming that with the anonymity it provides - nothing is forbidden. That is not so, it is never acceptable to play with the emotions of others, under any circumstances.

Shall I break-up? Am I right? Or my thinking is wrong somewhere? What if I hurt my partner with the break-up? What if I cannot live normally after break-up? Shall I recover from it? Should I break-up? I am having doubts about the reasons. I am doubtful about the consequences. I am confused. What shall I do?

After life reaches a stage where living together becomes very painful, one begins thinking of break-up. But the doubts can be overwhelming sometimes. They can mar the judgment. They confuse the thinking. This makes life further trouble some. What is the way out?

The first step should be giving your mind little rest. A tense mind tends to lose the way. Relax and let go of these thoughts for few days. Involve yourself in other activities. Relaxing your mind will give you some peace and help you think well. After you begin feeling peaceful, begin writing down your reasons for breaking up. Don’t miss anything. Write down all the reasons clearly and write explanations wherever needed. This will give you further insight into why you want to break-up.

Pluses and Minuses - write down both pluses and minuses of the break-up. Read them carefully and weigh them. If necessary, consult a close friend. After you become sure that you must break-up and that will be in your interest and in the interest of your partner, go ahead.

So you think that your partner might be cheating you? Why do you think that? Why not try this small quiz and find out the truth? A quiz is always very helpful in finding the truth. The quiz questions are simple such as- Does your partner not love you? Does he/she not share the expenses? Do they look at others and try to give flirting signs even if they are with you? Are they keeping relations with their ex even now? Or is it just a felling that you are being cheated either physically or emotionally? Let us take this quiz and find the truth.

Quiz sixth sense-

Many times, the feeling that we are being cheated is itself an evidence of something going wrong. Our sixth sense tells us that. Our conscious mind may fail to take the hints but the subconscious will do. So while taking this quiz don’t ignore the inner signals.

Quiz cheating patterns-

Did you find your partner talking to somebody on phone and then disconnect the phone as soon as they saw you? Is your partner wary of sharing the mail password with you? Are you finding that their cell phone bills are more than normal? Do they go out without informing you and make some excuse when you ask? Are any outside business trips involved? What about late work at the office? Or unscheduled work related meetings? Do they look at you eye to eye while talking? Or avoid talking and walk around while talking? Do you hear telephone bell and when you pick up the phone, line goes dead?

Quiz and get the truth-

These are some of the signs that something might be wrong? Not necessarily cheating. Why not quiz your partner and find the truth? Quizzing point by point will surely tell you the truth.

Cheating by a partner is something that destroys us. Many times, we are not sure that our partner is cheating us. That uncertainty troubles us so much that we do not know how to relate to our partner. We live a very painful life during that period. We don’t want to do injustice and don’t want to tolerate injustice. But we do not know the truth. Find out if your partner is cheating you with this quiz

I did everything possible to save our relationship. I gave in a lot, but I could not save. We will be breaking-up soon. That has already broken my heart. This relationship was made brick by brick over so many years. What all we did not do to make it last? But alas, we are breaking -up. This is a typical statement from a person facing break-up. How to survive after a break-up? Will you survive a break-up? Why not quiz yourself about it?

The immediate effect of the break-up would be pain. Will you be able to take the pain? The pain would go away slowly over a number of years, but the initial impact will be high. You will have to gather all your energy and tolerate the pain.

The second effect would be bitterness and blame. You will non stop think about the behavior of your ex partner and fix blame everywhere. You will recap all the arguments and fights and there will be a large amount of self-talk about how you were ditched. That will not be a pleasant experience. You will have to find way out of all this by spending quality time with friends, involving you in new activities, and keep yourself busy. Are you ready for that?

The major effect would be the temptation to join immediately with anew partner. This can work both the ways. Some people never wish to form a relationship again after undergoing the trauma, while some want to form a relationship as soon as possible to forget the earlier one. Both of theses choices carry danger. The best alternative is to wait for sometime and when you find your stability and self esteem back, try and form another relationship. Are you ready for this?

Sometimes we attempt to overlook the obvious signs that a relationship has gone sour because we don’t want to admit it. This can be for many different reasons that range from being in a comfort zone to not wanting to admit failure. Other reasons may be that the couple truly cares for one another, but there is just something that makes the relationship unable to work. Whatever the reasons may be, you need to learn to recognize the signs so that you can avoid as much discomfort as possible when the two of you walk away. Delaying the inevitable is only going to make things more difficult.

One of the most obvious signs that a relationship is over is the desire to spend less time apart. The couple may begin spending more time with family and friends alone rather than with their dating partner. Of course, if this is something you have done throughout the relationship, this may be less obvious and more difficult to detect. However, you should be able to detect other signs such as staying out later on these outings than in the past or not calling to let your partner know you have returned. You may also choose to call just so your partner doesn’t worry but not spend time to discuss the events of the day as you once did. These outings may also increase in frequency as the relationship continues to decline.

As your relationship declines, you may find you are spending less time on the telephone. When you leave a message, your partner may take longer to return the call if he or she returns it at all. Instead of going out and enjoying yourselves, time together may be limited to sitting around watching television, an activity that doesn’t require much interaction. Dates may begin to include friends so that you don’t have to attempt to engage in meaningful conversation. You may also find yourself going to more public places such as ballgames and other sporting events you never attended before just to avoid too much close contact.

When you find yourselves arguing over stupid things, you know it’s time to move along your separate ways. Certainly every couple has times when they are going to pick a fight “just because,” but when it becomes frequent, you know that something is seriously wrong with the relationship. That is the point when you need to sit down and talk it over and decide if the relationship is really dead or if you are just on a plateau as sometimes happens.

Also, if you have been together long enough that your relationship includes intimacy, and that suddenly becomes less frequent or non-existent, you know you are truly on a downhill slide. Even within marriage a change in the frequency of intimate relations is a sure sign of severe problems within the relationship. When you put everything together, you have to look at the complete picture and know when it is time to say goodbye and walk away.

1. Know for sure that you really do want to break up. If you are simply upset with your partner, you should consider talking about what upset you rather than ending the relationship.
2. Before having “the talk” that ends the relationship, think about the reasons you are breaking up. Your partner will ask you why you want out, and you should be prepared with answers. If you have trouble remembering examples during emotional discussions or arguments, write your reasons down in advance.
3. Plan out how long you are willing to spend “breaking up” and stick to your schedule. You may even want to arrange an appointment with a friend in a neutral location so that you can say “I’m supposed to meet John at the restaurant in fifteen minutes, so I have to go now.”
4. Sit down with your partner and let him or her know that you need to have a serious talk. When asked “why?” or “about what?”, simply respond that you’ve decided to end the relationship.
5. Expect your partner to do any or all of the following:
   • Question — He or she will want to know why, and whether there was anything he or she could have done to prevent the breakup. Answer the questions as honestly as possible.
   • Cry — The other person will likely be upset, and it will show. It is okay to comfort him or her, but don’t allow yourself to be manipulated into changing your decision.
   • Argue — He or she may dispute anything you’ve said during the breakup, including examples you used in your reasons for breaking up. Don’t get dragged into a fight, and don’t split hairs. Let your partner know that arguing isn’t going to change your decision.
   • Bargain/Beg — He or she may offer to change, or to do things differently in order to preserve the relationship. If the person didn’t change when you’ve discussed your problems in the past, it is too late to expect him or her to truly change now.
   • Lash Out — Whether it’s as simple as saying “You’ll never find anyone as good as me” or as scary as saying “I’ll make you regret this”, he or she is usually just trying to make himself or herself feel better.

Breaking up is never fun. The end of a relationship means the beginning of a
period of mourning and healing for both people. If the break up was
mutual both people will experience a period of adjustment where they
are getting used to no longer being together. If the break up was not
mutual the person who ended things may be dealing with guilt and
feelings that they may have made a mistake. The person being broken up
with will definitely have to adjust, first to being rejected and second
to life without somebody they still care for. How do you get through
those first few weeks? Here we list eight essential things everybody
must do in the early days of a break up to let the healing begin.

1. Avoid the former love. Yes, avoid. No, this isn’t being
immature. Seeing your former flame can bring out emotions and may cause
you do to or say something you will regret. In the first few weeks the
best thing you can do for yourself is not be where you know they will
be.
2. Talk out your feelings with close friends. Get everything out
so that you won’t hold it inside. Your friends may get sick of hearing
you talk about the situation but you need to let out all your feelings
and thoughts or they may come back to bite you later.
3. Cry if you want to. It’s OK to cry over a loss. Don’t hold
back, let the tears roll just do it in a safe and private place where
it is unlikely to get back to your ex. You don’t want your tears to be
used as a guilt trip. Their purpose is to cleanse you of any pain not
make your lover come back.
4. Let go of mementos. Put away or give away anything and
everything that reminds you of the relationship. Hide them out of sight
so they will be out of mind until you are able to remember the
relationship without longing for it to still be going strong.
5. Don’t slip up and get together with your ex. When you are
feeling sad or missing a relationship it can be very easy to fall back
in to the arms of your ex but DO NOT DO THIS. This will only set you
back and let’s face it, if things ended the relationship wasn’t perfect
to begin with so why would you want to rekindle things?
6. Focus on all the things about your ex that drove you crazy,
turned you off, or that you just plain found annoying. Think about
these things often and replay them in your mind over and over. Dwell on
them. It will make you feel better to remember that your former flame
was not perfect and that there are things you won’t really miss.
7. Think about the mean, cruel or rude things your ex may have
done in your relationship. Really give these things play in your
memory. Remind yourself that somebody who truly cared for you would not
have done such thoughtless things and tell yourself (over and over)
that you are better off without that kind of ego crushing behavior in
your life.
8. Maintain a strict no contact policy and stick with it. Don’t
pass notes through friends. Don’t make any calls. Stay away from
instant messaging or texting on your cell. Just don’t contact your ex
until you are totally and completely sure you no longer want to be with
him or her. It is the only way.

Mending a broken heart is not easy but it can be done. Just
stick to the game plan outlined above and before you know it you’ll be
just fine. Good luck!

I have lived with a man for almost 6 years, caring for him and his daughter. I thought things were going okay. I was happy. Sure, there were problems, but nothing I didn’t think we could get resolved. That was until he informed me he had been having an affair with an older woman. He also went on to tell me how it had nothing to do with love because it was me he loved. I would always be the woman he would love, but that it was time to make decisions for his future (she is rather wealthy) and the future of his daughter.

So, I of course cried and begged him not to make that choice. We could work out whatever was needed for the future we had already started. He agreed to try, and so we played house Monday through Friday. Then, every weekend he would disappear. I finally could take no more. I had his things packed and asked him to go stay with her until I could get the money to move out. He agreed, and in a short while I moved out on my own.

Unfortunately, he found me and proceeded to constantly tell me how much he missed me. He would come over to try and have sex with me. I am proud to say I NEVER gave in. However the separation from him was killing me inside, and I was so afraid to date or go out for fear he would get wind of it. Then the love I had professed to him would become meaningless to him.

This went on for about six months when I had decided I could take no more of the constant “I love yous” and “It’s only a matter of time” comments. My friends were teasing me because I would sit in my apartment and wait for him to call or come by. He never did. So, I moved in with another guy, we’re “roommates,” but there is more to it and I am not ashamed to say I believe he is a very special person. But my ex believes I am to be together with him when he gets things all sorted out in his life. He still calls to say he loves me and asked me to promise not to fall in love with anyone, yet he’s sleeping with three other women that I know of. How do I explain to him that the love I have for him will never die? Yet, it isn’t the same as wanting to wait for him until nothing else better shows up… -Waiting For Him

Five situations where you might make better friends than lovers!
Should you just be friends?by Bob Narindra

Sometimes, even though you would hate to admit it, some friends should never become couples. While each relationship is different and almost all obstacles can be overcome, here are 5 situations in which you might want to consider just being friends.

#1 Your future goals are completely different.
Future goals play an important part in any relationship. If you are ambitious and your partner is not, then there may come a time when you realize that there is quite a gulf between you. The experiences of today, shape who you will become tomorrow. With the gulf in ambition, there could come a time when you just grow apart.

#2 You have different core beliefs.
Every couple needs to have some basic common points of agreement in order to succeed. These “agreements” could be as simple as you both know you want children, or that you both have similar moral values. While different points of view are often healthy for a relationship, some differences maybe a little too difficult to bridge. If you cannot find workable comprises to these differences, then it would probably be better to just be friends.

#3 Your relationship is purely sexual.
While sex is an essential and integral part of any relationship, a relationship built solely on sex is probably not going to go far. When “your place or mine” sums up the extent of your conversation then you really should consider just being friends… with a few benefits here and there.

#4 One of you is more committed than the other.
One of the hardest situations to deal with is when one partner is obviously more committed to the relationship than the other. It may be because one loves the other more, or it could be that one of you is just not ready to make a commitment yet. Such situations often cause resentment to build up, probably on both sides. If this is happening to you, consider cooling it for a while until you are both ready for the next step.

#5 You were more loving as friends.
A friend of mine once described the relationship between himself and his ex-wife as “great friends that should never have gotten married.” That got me thinking and I realized that, with relationships come responsibilities and expectations that are not present between friends. If these added responsibilities and expectations are causing you to spend more time arguing and fighting than loving, then you might want to go back to what was successful for you… just being friends.
Remember, deciding whether or not to stay in a relationship is not a decision to be taken lightly and every relationship is different. The chances are, if you are reading this article then you probably are having a few doubts about your relationship. When making your decision, make sure you are not just having a “bad relationship day” and make your decisions for the long term. The above situations are just some guidelines to help you on your way.

Hey well first off my name is Amy and i want to share this story because i want other peoples advice on this. So here it goes, About 2 months ago me and this guy met up on msn messenger. Well his name was jon, and we knew eachother since grade school he lived in my hometown and i was at a friends house that lived there, and we met online. So well we got to talking and realized we remembered eachother and we talked and he said asked me would i want to go out on a date that friday. So i said yea that sounds good, and such so we went out and it went great, he was so amazing and i really did like him alot. Well about 2 weeks went by and we were out one night and he said i think we should go ahead and start dateing, i said well it’s up to you. And he said i really do like you, and wana have a relationship with you and i dont see no better time than now, so i said ok i’ll go out with you. So we started dateing, well we really did get close he would come see me about every day. Well we dated for almost 2 months, and well about it’s been almost 2 weeks he called me and was like hey do you wana go to the movies tonight? i said yea sure he said alright well i’m gonna go eat at the huddle house with kari and ryan (his friends) and then i’ll be on over there. I said alright sounds good, bye. So then about a hour went by and he never had called me..well i knew something was wrong, cause it was just to weird. So then it was about 8:30 and he got online (msn messneger) and well i waited a few mins for him to msg me, and he got right back offline. Well i now knew something was up?..so then about 5 minutes later he got online again and msged me and said Hey “we need to talk” i said ok what about? he said Amy, i just dont really love you, and i was like what?! he said i’m sorry but i just think there other people out there for us, and i think we would be better off if we just broke up and just went our seperate ways. I did not exspect this at all. And just got offline, i haven’t talk to him since that night and i dont know.. it was just all weird, and i’m still hurt over it. He hasn’t tried calling and he ant even been online again..at all his name on msn messneger still says “Jon loves Amy” he ant even took it off. And i dont know i just think it’s weird and messed up, but I am hurt still, i mean i did have strong feelings for him. I’m not forsure if i really did love him, he told me thathe loved me, and i said it back. But i still ant forsure if i really did, i know i cared alot about him though and it did hurt me that he done me the way he did. But i guess i’m just gonna have to move on and get over it cause i dont know he must not wana be with me is all i know. But i just want someone’s advice on this story and see what other ppl think about the way he done me, if it was right or if anyone else feels the way i do that it was just weird and does not make sense at all. But i’d appreciate comments, thanks.

by amz

It wasn’t the way you kissed me that made me feel so right
It wasn’t the way you loved me before we’d sleep at night
It was the way I realized why I was always down
It was the way you played me when I’m not around
My heart was always broken all because of you
And everytime I think of it there is nothing I can do
I thought that I could make it right but nothing seem to fit
I think I kind of miss you maybe just a bit
All this time I loved you so
So much love that didn’t grow
And I think it’s time I let you go

By Bianca Lebron

Dealing With An Online Breakup

Healing your heart with time and love…

Alas, not every online love relationship will make it through as a success story. An online breakup can seem even more empty and alone than breaking off a traditional relationship. Thoughts of self-doubt, wasted time and more can overflow your mind. If you find yourself trying to handle an online breakup use the following tips to help heal and move on.

* Quit using the chat or place where you often communicated for a while.

* Become more active outside of the computer. Chances are while you were together you spent entirely too much time inside. Get outdoors and visit some old friends.

* Develop a new Internet hobby or interest such as playing games, learning how to make web pages, or researching your family tree.

* Figure out what you want to do about finding a new love. Sign up to an Internet personals service or start chatting with old friends you haven’t talked to in a while.

* Remove all reminders of your Internet love including pictures, letters and other memorabilia. You don’t need to throw it away; just remove it so you can’t see them for a while.

* Start a daily journal to release all of your feelings. Chances are you may not be comfortable talking with other people about your online relationship. This is an excellent way to make sure things don’t get bottled up and cause issues in future relationships.