I have a blind lover I met his guy when I enter the university, the frist day I saw this guy we talk a little and he left campus the very next day he trival from then on I never had the opprotunity to talk to him until 2002 and from than on we have been so in love he calls me everday we talk for hours he sent me money buy me gift and now he’s my man I love this guy and nothing is going to change that if he dose not call the regular time I die a thosand times.this is just a part of my story til next time for detial God bless you.

Ben and I went to high school together and didn’t even realize it. We were both in the marching band together, and soon he graduated and I moved on into my own little world. I graduated and went away to school. I was involved with someone at the time and it soon didn’t work out like many times before. One night after needing someone to talk to, I decided to log on, check some email and just sit in the chat rooms and talk a little.
Well, upon checking my email I found that I had a new message in my account. To be honest with you, it was the usual junk mail and just deleted most of it. Then, I came across his email. All it said was, “You probably don’t remember me but I remember you, so maybe we can chat online sometime.-Ben” He was right, I didn’t really remember him. I saved it and then proceeded to log into the chat room.
Put a message in the box and sent it for the room to read. Little did I know that I would come across him. It was nice, we talked till about 4a.m. that night. We continued to email each other until I went home for the summer. Then it carried over into phone calls and emailing. Then we decided that we should get some of our friends together and go out and just hang out. As it turns out, all of our friends were busy, so we went alone with one another.
He picked me up at my house. It was like, unbelieveable. We went out to eat, and then he took me out to look at the stars and it was absolutely beautiful. Then he put his arms around me and kissed me. That kiss was magical. Six months later, that love is still there. I am still away at school and it is very hard for us. But the few times that we spend together we cherish with one another like there is no tomorrow.
Ben is a beautiful part of my life and my family can see that. I took him to meet my father’s side of the family and they absolutely loved him. I never thought that I could fall in love with someone and then it happened. It just goes to show you not to give up…:O)

Okay, so it was our second or third Valentine’s together. I told him that after all this time I still had no idea what to do for guys on Valentine’s Day. I asked him if he even liked getting flowers and things like that or if he thought that it was too corny and girly. He replied that while the thought was great and he did appreciate it he jokingly said that he would rather have a wrench than a rose. So I took the idea and went with it. I went to the dollar store and found a whole set of wrenches. From big to small. Then I went around gathering his favorite “manly” things. Like toy cars, candy bars, Oreo cookies. He also had a thing about monkeys. He loves monkeys. I managed to find a pair of kissing monkeys at Wal-Mart for around 10 dollars. I bought a basket and some tissue paper. I put the monkeys in the middle of the basket and then put everything but the wrenches around it to decorate it. It looked great. Then I took the wrenches and wrapped them in the tissue paper like a bouquet of roses. I even got some baby’s breath to put around it. When he came to my door on valentine’s I had the bouquet behind my back and a big grin on my face (the basket was in the kitchen). When he went to hand me my bouquet of actual roses I pulled out his bouquet of wrenches. He was totally shocked! He didn’t know what to say. He loved it so much. Now every year I have a challenge of trying to come up with a new way to give him a “manly bouquet.” A man can only have so many wrenches so every year I pick a new cheap tool and find a different way to give it to him that is original yet traditional. One year, I took allen wrenches and actually made them look like earrings.

I think a good relationship requires being each other’s best friend, and trusting one another. I think each should respect the other’s opinion and that stupid arguments over stupid things are healthy, as long as they are not taken too far. -Krissy

Good communication. Never being ashamed of each other for any reason. On occasion surprising your mate with a nice romantic date or evening together and telling each other I love you. -Laura

There is a lot of love and caring in the relationship. There has to be love in order for a relationship to work. -Donna

A good relationship is when your partner is more than just a partner… they should be your best friend. -Rebecca

A good relationship is when two lovers understand each other, they’re concerned for each other and they respect one another. -GP

A good relationship is one purely based on trust, if nothing else. Being able to be miles apart yet never worrying a minute about what they’re doing. Communication at all times is so important, and most importantly, respect for each other and their need for alone time as well as together time. -Becky

Two people trusting each other fully, not being afraid to tell the other what one thinks, whether it be good or bad, and the other respecting their opinion. Being able to enjoy the same things with each other, enjoying each other, and being able to take their separate lives and smoothly combine their lifestyles into a couple’s lifestyle. -Carrie

Being friends first, last and always. If you have friendship as the basis of your relationship, you can get through the hard times. The second ingredient is commitment. With those two things, you can’t lose. -Heather

A good relationship is two people that are not afraid to tell the other anything that may come up in the relationship. Best friends. Honesty, devotion, love, and sense of humor. -kris

A good relationship exists when either individual has the freedom to leave but neither wants to. -Charles

I honestly think that a good relationship is one where there are no secrets. You are completely open with each other. But the biggest key is that the other person knows the worst possible thing about you and they love you even more for it. On top of that you have to have faith and trust. So that when your man goes out with an old female friend you can completely trust him and know that no matter what happens, he will always come home to you. I know it may not seem like much but as long as you have that and love, you are in a wonderful relationship. -Breanna

I define a good relationship by the way you treat each other. You could hold them and run your fingers down the side of their face. Feel comfortable you know. And you can also define it with fighting. Fighting is not my favorite thing to do with my girlfriend. But it needs to be done. It’s not a real relationship until you do fight. -Jasen

I would have to say good communication! Equality, LOVE, not just lust, and most of all, friendship is needed. -Morning Star

For me, a good relationship is being able to open up to each other even about the simple things in life. A relationship between two people cannot grow without trust. Loving a person is not enough, because if you’ve got doubts building up inside then you your relationship won’t work. A good relationship is also based on friendship because it is so much easier to love someone you truly know than someone you’ve met 5 minutes ago. -Toni

I think it is where you can trust and respect each other; when you can have passion and romance whenever and wherever you wish. -Kevin

A good relationship is when the two of you can actually feel better about your relationship after an argument; it’s when you can really respect each other’s differences and openly discuss feelings at all times. -Angie

You have good relationship where there is compromise, honesty, sensitivity, and a feel for the needs and wants of the other person and yourself. -Adrian

When the couple listens and doesn’t interrupt when they’re trying to work out a fight. They care for each other deeply. They share similar interests. -Cassie

A good relationship is when both parties can freely express themselves with one another and to have that open connection to be able to say anything to each other. To have trust and faith in one another. Basically a honest, trusting, loving and open relationship. -Randall

A good relationship is frankness and open-minded communication between friends. It is a two-way communication without dominance and/or hypocrisy in it. -Frank Anderson

A good relationship isn’t necessarily flawless, because human beings aren’t flawless. It’s more important that you can grow with the person you love. If you can learn and grow each day with your best friend standing by you in body and in spirit-then you have a good relationship. -nic

When you can feel comfortable about everything together. Always being able to talk, joke. Taking your commitment seriously with one another and never taking each other for granted. -Vivian Imrisek

A good relationship must a give and take basis, in order for you to understand each other. Never fail to listen and understand the situation your in to. Be open minded and be ready to any obstacle that will come in you’re way. -Karen

A good relationship is when both members fully trust each other and can have a blast with each other, knowing how to laugh and be there for each other. -kamainaone

It’s something divine. Where the understanding between the two partners is mutual. No talking required, but it’s something you can just feel, something special. Where you can just believe in each other, really believe. How there is a difference between saying it and actually feeling it.

I have been dating this guy for over a year and recently I finally got up the nerve and told him I love him. He didn’t say anything back to me. I was crushed. The next day he called to tell me he was sorry he acted like he did and that I had caught him off guard. He said that he cared for me but he wasn’t ready to say that to me. That has been two months ago and we haven’t discussed the issue since. I know that I love him and I enjoy being with him. We only get to see each other about once a week because of our schedules and I am usually the one that has to call him during the week to say hey and see how he is. I have told him that he upsets me when he only calls me when he wants to go out or when I call him. He will do better for a few weeks and then it is back to me always calling him. Neither one of us has dated much in the past. How long should I wait for him to finally decide if he loves me or not? And is it a bad sign that he doesn’t call me much during the week? I know that I love him but I don’t want to date him forever and then never have him love me back. -Could We Be A Couple?

A year is a long time to be dating someone and to still feel this way. If I was in this situation, I’d probably start bailing out. If he calls you, GREAT, go out with him and have fun. But, don’t call him first. He may be totally into you, but doesn’t realize he isn’t showing it. Or, maybe he doesn’t feel the need to call since you call him enough already. Honestly, though, I wouldn’t put too much hope into this being a lasting relationship. It sounds like he likes you enough to have some one to hang out with, but not enough to take it to some type of commitment level. Don’t get caught in the trap of why he may feel this way. It doesn’t even matter why; he just does and you would probably be better off looking for someone new to hang your heart with.

Have a car waiting to pick him up at work with the driver holding a sign with his name on it. The driver will then drive him to the hotel of your picking and give him the key and room number. Upon entering his room, he will find a suit and a note to get dressed and go back to the car. After he is dressed and leaves the room, you go into the room, unseen, and scatter rose petals all over the place and put champagne on ice. Have the candles and music ready to be turned on upon your return. Now it is time for you to get in your car and meet up with him at the restaurant he has been taken too. It is okay to be a little late because at this point he is wondering what is going on. You arrive in your sexy evening gown and a rose. Don’t forget to put on some of his favorite perfume! After a romantic candle lit dinner, the two of you return to the car together and the driver takes you back to your hotel. Go up a little before him so you can turn on the music and light the candles. Also, run a hot bath with rose petals covering the surface of the water. When he arrives in the room romance him with all you have in you. He will never forget this night and may even plan a night to top yours.

I went to the store and bought blue roses (since he is a guy), Hershey’s kisses (in the gold and silver wrapper), candles (scented) and bubble bath. Now, eating out is or can get boring, so I wanted to do something different. I made reservations at a restaurant where they have belly dancers. I also printed a poem for him off the computer. Now, after all of this I gave my friend a key to my apartment so she can set it up after I left. So, we went out to eat, he had no idea that I had a night filled with passion planned for him. When we got ready to leave the restaurant, I called my friend to run the bubble bath and light the candles. When he walked in, he had a poem on the coffee table with a rose on top of it (I teld him to stay there). I slipped on something sexy and got him. He walked into the room filled with rose pedals, Hershey kisses forming hearts with candles in the middle as well as the words, “Oh, I Love You, Q” on my black carpet.

So you want a night out with your friends, but you want to spend time with your partner too. Join the two and have the best of both worlds with a couples’ night out. If you have been under any kind of stress lately a couples’ night out may be just what the doctor ordered! Socialization outside of your relationship is very important. If you spend too much time just one-on-one you can let your problems become too overwhelming, or even out-of-perspective. So, let loose and enjoy the company of good friends and your love using the following ideas and suggestions.

Rules of Play
Like every great game, you need to have a few rules to create the perfect atmosphere for fun. Here are a few to keep in mind.

If you have a group of three or more couples’ you socialize with take turns planning a night out on a certain date. This way one couple doesn’t become overburdened with the responsibility.

If you go to someone else’s house, remember it’s their house not yours. Pick up after yourself and offer to help with preparations or any set up involved. As obvious as this may seem, it never hurts to repeat it.

Make sure each person in the group will be comfortable with the chosen event or outing. Nothing kills a festive mood faster than one sour apple.

If you’re hosting a couples’ night out at your home make sure to have some beverages and a few snacks on hand so appetites don’t get in the way of a great time.

Most importantly, have fun!

A few ideas for creating a couples’ night out include:

Karaoke Night
Find a local karaoke bar you can all meet at, or take turns hosting your own. If you’re hosting a karaoke night, a great and at the very least, entertaining game is Karaoke Suicide. Put in any karaoke CD or tape and decide who will go first, second, etc. Then have each person sing a song on the CD without skipping any. For example, if you were first you would sing the first song. If your partner were next, they would sing the second song, and so forth.

Board Game Tournament
Raid your closets and dig out your favorite group board games. Or, have each couple bring a game. You can raise the stakes by having a $5.00 entry fee. Whatever couple wins the most games wins the money collected for the entry fee.

Card Playing Night
Get a book on card games, or play your favorites like bridge, spades or poker. A fun and inexpensive way to bet is to have everyone bring over their spare change. Distribute all the change evenly to each person. Whatever you still have at the end of night is yours to keep.

Wine Tasting Night
As pretentious as it may sound, with the right tools you’re in for a great, informative time. The best book to help you along is The Wine Tasting Class: Expertise in 12 Tastings. Each week is devoted to a different type of wine. The book comes with a notebook to help write down your thoughts and experiences on each wine.

Cooking Classes
Hire an in-home chef to prepare a meal for your group, or meet at local restaurant giving classes. Cooking classes are a great way to expand the cuisine of your group.

Book Club
If you and your friends show a common interest for the love of reading, start a book club. Each month pick a “Book of the Month.” Have everyone get a copy and arrange for a get together each month to talk about your thoughts on the reading material. For a really in-depth club, correspond your reading choices to authors that will be making personal appearances at your local bookstore.

A highly successful action among lasting couples is a weekly, biweekly or monthly date night. If this is something you’d like to try with your partner, the following ideas can help you get started!

Watch a romantic movie together.

Have a picnic at the beach, park or even your living room!

Go to a local club or restaurant that plays your favorite type of music.

Enjoy a night of dinner and dancing.

Have fun at a local amusement park, arcade or miniature golfing place.

Play board or video games at home.

Stay at a hotel for the night, and be sure to order in!

Visit a museum together.

Play your favorite sport together.

Pamper each other with a spa night (massage, bubble bath for two, etc.).

Act out a romantic encounter.

Go to a poetry reading.

Take a walk together along a scenic route.

Drive in a direction for an hour and find things to do in the area you arrive at.

Go on a dinner cruise.

Enjoy the last lingering days of summer with your partner during one of these great summer dates!

1. Enjoy an outing of horseback riding in a scenic spot.

2. Share a romantic picnic for two.

3. Spend private time together during a camping trip.

4. Go for a boat ride on a lake.

5. Share a romantic dinner on the beach.

6. Take a moonlit stroll.

7. Spend the day at an amusement park.

8. Visit a county fair.

9. Talk over iced coffees at your favorite café.

10. Spend the day window shopping together.

11. Visit your local wineries for a day of wine tasting.

12. Swim under a waterfall.

13. Share a sunset dinner anywhere.

14. Spend the day playing at the park.

15. Go on a nature hike together.

16. Enjoy the Jacuzzi by candlelight.

17. Go on a day trip and visit a nearby town.

18. Play a game of miniature golf.

19. Have fun in the pool together.

20. Share a sunrise picnic.

21. Enjoy a concert in the park together.

22. Have a romantic dinner aboard a train.

23. Watch a favorite sports team play live.

24. Enjoy dancing outside to a live band.

25. Go to a local farmer’s market, or even better visit a local farm.

Getting Started…

Creating a mystery is always a fun way to approach a date night. You can arrange for something simple to something quite extraordinary depending on your budget and time. The best aspect of a mystery date is it keeps your partner thinking and anticipating the actual event all week long.

Picking the destination…

Where you go on your mystery date really depends on your interests, time and budget. Here are a few ideas to get you started…

* Get tickets for a train, bus or plane to a nearby destination you’ve both wanted to visit.

* Plan a romantic rendezvous at a water destination like a beach, river or lake. For added appeal, rent a boat or house boat.

* Make the simple dramatic by planning an elaborate encounter somewhere they’d least expect, such as a fast food restaurant or a public park.

* Hire someone to do personal training for something you’ve both wanted to try such as karate, gymnastics, rock climbing, painting, balloon making, etc.

* Rent out a movie theater, restaurant, bowling alley, go-kart track or other public place you both like to go to.

* Arrange to swap homes with a good friend or family member for the night. Have a romantic dinner set up before you arrive.

* Camp out at a camp ground, in the woods, in your backyard or rent an RV.

Getting to the destination…

Planning the arrival can be the most fun aspect of this date night. However you plan on arriving, a blindfold will be a necessary part of the equation. You could also arrange to be in a vehicle with windows that are heavily tinted.

For an overnight destination, pack the belongings they’ll need ahead of time and have it secretly stowed away. Make sure you don’t forget anything important! Do not reveal where you are going until the very last possible second. You can even pretend to be going somewhere else and then happen to arrive at a different destination instead.

For places nearby, blindfold your partner and drive a completely different way to the place you are going. This is especially fun if the destination is actually your home.

If you have time, you can create a type of scavenger hunt for your partner to solve that leads them to the final destination, where you will be waiting.

Invitation to mystery…

As previously mentioned, the best aspect of this date is the anticipation. To do this you have to let your partner know you have something planned. There are a lot of fun ways to do this. You can tell them with something as simple as a little note that tells them not to make any plans on a specific date. However, a little more detail never goes unrewarded. You can send your partner an invitation to be somewhere at a certain time, dressed in a certain way and what to bring. You could do the above mentioned idea with the scavenger hunt. Try leaving destination clues around for them to find. For example, if you were going somewhere by plane you could leave a note on a plane-shaped piece of paper. Then if you were going to a beach destination by plane you could leave brochures for beach resorts, not any near your actual destination, lying around. You could also use this technique to lead them on the wrong trail. Have a little fun and you never know what kind of effect you’ll have! The time you take now will set the tone for the entire adventure, even if it is as simple as camping out in your backyard.

Finding Free or Inexpensive Events
To take advantage of special or free events in your city you need to be first aware of them. To do this you will need to find out where local events are listed. Your local newspaper is a great place to start. Take a peek at the Current Events or Arts sections for upcoming events or new restaurant openings, etc.

You will also find listings in any local entertainment guides, papers or magazines. Most major cities have a local magazine that gives reviews on restaurants, places to go and more. You might also want to also try the web guides for your city.

Using Nature
Nature is a natural romantic setting. Take some time to discover a few places in your area. Places that have beaches, lakes or waterfalls are perfect to inspire your romantic side. Also, secluded parks are a perfect haven for romantic picnics. The more adventurous might enjoy a hike or long walk through a nature park.

The Arts
There are many museums and arts events that are either free or charge a nominal fee to enter. They offer a way to spend time with your partner and learn more about them and their interests. It is also a great opportunity to expand your own horizons.

Romantic Dinners
It isn’t always necessary to go to a fancy restaurant to have a wonderful romantic dinner. With a little imagination, a fantastic, creative romantic dinner for two can be whipped up quite easily. First start by finding your local farmer’s market. Go there together and pick out items you’d both like to cook for dinner. If you know anything about fishing, arrange for a day trip together and cook whatever you’ve caught (Have a back up plan in case you don’t make a catch!).

If you still want a restaurant atmosphere, go to a place known to serve excessively large portions and share a meal together.

Remember finding inexpensive date ideas are not difficult if you keep your eye out for things. Subscribe to your local paper and/or magazines (or read copies at the library) to always keep up to date on events happening around town.

Be a pro in the dating scene, and happily ever after will come sooner than you can imagine! Below are a few tips to help you smooth out any rough spots you might be experiencing.

* Never assume you know what your date is thinking.

* Don’t monopolize the entire conversation.

* Be yourself… always!

* Give compliments, but don’t be fake about it.

* Avoid saying negative things about your past relationships.

* Don’t point out your flaws, or worse yet, theirs!

* Don’t get too amorous on a first date.

* When in doubt, smile!

* Actually listen when your date is speaking to you.

* Respect any differences in opinions or habits your date may have instead of turning your nose up at them.

* Ask questions to get to know your date, but don’t do the thirty questions drill.

* Be polite and say thank you if your date does something for you.

* Make an effort to dress nicely, and be well groomed.

* Keep an open mind towards new experiences.

* Have fun, and really enjoy your time together!

One of the most important aspects of dating is to romance your prospective partner, especially on a first date!

Having defined romance as ‘The act of making your partner feel loved,’ I have listed a few ideas below as to how you might accomplish this while dating.

For men:

1. Always open the car door for her.

2. Make her feel incredibly special at every opportunity.

3. Send her a fancy invitation to a night out with you.

4. Whisk her away to somewhere special or sentimental one weekend.

5. Send her flowers and love notes regularly.

6. Make an effort to secretly find out something that she has always wanted to do and arrange for her to do it with you.

7. Pull out her chair for her at a restaurant.

8. Give her your jacket if she even so much as hints at being cold.

9. Always compliment her on her hair and clothing.

10. Send her a special thank you card after the date to let her know you had a great time and would like to do it again.

11. Leave a red rose on her car seat for her.

For women:

1. Tell him how good he looks.

2. When you look at him, smile warmly.

3. Let him know you really appreciate the effort he is making.

4. Surprise him by finding out everything you can about something that he is interested in.

5. Be extroverted and openly interested in what he is doing or saying.

6. Don’t talk too much about yourself but find areas of common interest to talk about.

7. Send him a special thank you card after the date to let him know you had a great time and would like to do it again.

8. Leave a note on his car to let him know that you were thinking about him.

9. Wear something extra-special on a date just for him.

10. Buy two tickets to an event he is interested in and take him with you.

11. Make him look good when you are out in public together.

Do

1. Make your partner feel comfortable.
2. Keep the conversation flows going.
3. Be an interesting date.
4. Laugh at their jokes.
5. Be on time.
6. Be yourself.
7. Talk about their interests also.
8. Be a romantic.
9. Be confident.
10. Show respect to your date’s wishes.

Don’t

1. Talk about yourself all night.
2. Be late.
3. Talk about an ex-relationship all night.
4. Eat with your mouth open.
5. Try to be something you are not.
6. Show disrespect for your partner or their beliefs.
7. Forget to thank them for the date.
8. Pursue sex after your partner has said no.
9. Propose marriage or kids.
10. Ask too many questions.