Ben and I went to high school together and didn’t even realize it. We were both in the marching band together, and soon he graduated and I moved on into my own little world. I graduated and went away to school. I was involved with someone at the time and it soon didn’t work out like many times before. One night after needing someone to talk to, I decided to log on, check some email and just sit in the chat rooms and talk a little.
Well, upon checking my email I found that I had a new message in my account. To be honest with you, it was the usual junk mail and just deleted most of it. Then, I came across his email. All it said was, “You probably don’t remember me but I remember you, so maybe we can chat online sometime.-Ben” He was right, I didn’t really remember him. I saved it and then proceeded to log into the chat room.
Put a message in the box and sent it for the room to read. Little did I know that I would come across him. It was nice, we talked till about 4a.m. that night. We continued to email each other until I went home for the summer. Then it carried over into phone calls and emailing. Then we decided that we should get some of our friends together and go out and just hang out. As it turns out, all of our friends were busy, so we went alone with one another.
He picked me up at my house. It was like, unbelieveable. We went out to eat, and then he took me out to look at the stars and it was absolutely beautiful. Then he put his arms around me and kissed me. That kiss was magical. Six months later, that love is still there. I am still away at school and it is very hard for us. But the few times that we spend together we cherish with one another like there is no tomorrow.
Ben is a beautiful part of my life and my family can see that. I took him to meet my father’s side of the family and they absolutely loved him. I never thought that I could fall in love with someone and then it happened. It just goes to show you not to give up…:O)

It was in Middle School, we had a kind of prom ‘cept it was for the 8th graders, and all the guys wore suits and the girls wore dresses and stuff. A guy I liked had asked me to the dance earlier, and we met there. The dance itself was really fun. Afterwords he came over to my house for a little while. We live on a beautiful creek, and in my backyard we have a hammock by the waterside. The moon was up and there were tons of stars in the sky. The way the moon hit the water was just amazing, everything looked so beautiful. Anyway, me and my date went and sat on the hammock and talked for a while. Then he looked up at me and we looked in each others eyes for a long time. He leaned forward and kissed me. Then, pretty much as soon as his lips touched mine, the strings holding the hammock up broke and we both fell to the ground. We looked at each other then cracked up laughing. It was an amazing first kiss to me, better then I could’ve imagined… it was the kind that you know you’ll never forget :]

One of the most important aspects of dating is to romance your prospective partner, especially on a first date!

Having defined romance as ‘The act of making your partner feel loved,’ I have listed a few ideas below as to how you might accomplish this while dating.

For men:

1. Always open the car door for her.

2. Make her feel incredibly special at every opportunity.

3. Send her a fancy invitation to a night out with you.

4. Whisk her away to somewhere special or sentimental one weekend.

5. Send her flowers and love notes regularly.

6. Make an effort to secretly find out something that she has always wanted to do and arrange for her to do it with you.

7. Pull out her chair for her at a restaurant.

8. Give her your jacket if she even so much as hints at being cold.

9. Always compliment her on her hair and clothing.

10. Send her a special thank you card after the date to let her know you had a great time and would like to do it again.

11. Leave a red rose on her car seat for her.

For women:

1. Tell him how good he looks.

2. When you look at him, smile warmly.

3. Let him know you really appreciate the effort he is making.

4. Surprise him by finding out everything you can about something that he is interested in.

5. Be extroverted and openly interested in what he is doing or saying.

6. Don’t talk too much about yourself but find areas of common interest to talk about.

7. Send him a special thank you card after the date to let him know you had a great time and would like to do it again.

8. Leave a note on his car to let him know that you were thinking about him.

9. Wear something extra-special on a date just for him.

10. Buy two tickets to an event he is interested in and take him with you.

11. Make him look good when you are out in public together.

One of the most awkward experiences a person can have is at the end of a first date. Do you kiss and go home or do you “go upstairs for coffee?” The question of whether or not to have sex on the first date is something that is hotly debated. Listed below are some pro’s and con’s on the subject, followed by some advice on things to watch out for.
Pros of first date sex

* Possibility of great sex.
* It reinforces the feelings you have for your date.
* It shows whether the two of you are sexually compatible.
* You don’t have to part at the end of the night if you really like each other.

Cons of first date sex

* Sexually Transmitted Diseases.
* It could turn out to be a one-night-stand.
* You don’t typically know the person after just one date.
* It may be against your religious or moral beliefs.
* Your partner maybe a psycho (especially if this is a blind date).
* Your partner may think you are easy and devalue the entire experience.

Now, apart from the above, there is also the question of self-indulgence. Do you want to sleep with your date just to have sex? If that is the case and you don’t care if it turns out to be just a one-night-stand (and it is not against any religious or moral beliefs that you hold dear), then that is ok, as long as you are careful. However, if you expect to have a relationship with this person just because you slept with them, then don’t do it. My advice is that if you want to go out with this person again and develop a relationship with them, then hold off on having sex the first night. Take it a little slower and see how things develop.

Now, having said all that, it is a personal choice and if you decide not to sleep with your date, then listed below are a few things to watch out for so that you don’t end up in a potentially embarrassing, or dangerous, situation.

* Beware of back rubs or massages. These are generally a part of sexual foreplay and very often lead to sex.
* Do not allow them into your home at the end of the date or until you are ready to have sex.
* Don’t assume that just because you said no that your date will stop trying to sleep with you.
* Don’t lead them to believe that you will sleep with them. If necessary, tell them where they stand.

First dates can be incredibly tricky and nerve-wracking. It is therefore very important to establish in your own mind what you expect from the date beforehand.

The first thing you should decide is whether you are looking for a serious relationship or just some fun and companionship. If the latter is the case then make sure you let the other person know as early as possible. Do not string them along thinking that a serious relationship is a possibility when in fact it is the furthest thing from your mind.

Establish the ground rules as to what you will or will not do prior to the date. For example, if you do not want to sleep with your date, then do not allow yourself be placed in a position where that might happen.

Another thing that you need to decide before you go out on your first date is how much you are willing to reveal about yourself. There maybe certain incidents in your past that could cause your date to develop pre-conceived ideas about you, before they even really get to know you. While you do not want to appear cold and reveal little about yourself, you also do not want to overwhelm your date with too much information.

If your date is arranging everything, be careful and ensure that you know exactly where your date is taking you or planning to take you. Make sure you have a backup way of getting home if things do not go well. If possible, arrange to meet in a public place that you are familiar with, and do not forget to take your cell-phone, or change for a payphone in case of an emergency.

The important thing to remember is to have fun on your date and do not expect too much. After all, what is a first date other than a fun way to get to know one another, and to explore the possibilities of developing a strong and lasting relationship?

Do

1. Make your partner feel comfortable.
2. Keep the conversation flows going.
3. Be an interesting date.
4. Laugh at their jokes.
5. Be on time.
6. Be yourself.
7. Talk about their interests also.
8. Be a romantic.
9. Be confident.
10. Show respect to your date’s wishes.

Don’t

1. Talk about yourself all night.
2. Be late.
3. Talk about an ex-relationship all night.
4. Eat with your mouth open.
5. Try to be something you are not.
6. Show disrespect for your partner or their beliefs.
7. Forget to thank them for the date.
8. Pursue sex after your partner has said no.
9. Propose marriage or kids.
10. Ask too many questions.

Because online dating has become the norm for meeting people I want to outline a few tips for using online dating services.

When you join an online dating service you have much the same feeling of anticipation and excitement as you do when you are about to go on a blind date. The prospect of having people approve of you and possibly accept you as someone they want to have around them is exhilarating.

Be Honest

But how do you create a powerful and compelling online dating profile? You’ve heard that honesty is the best policy…It is. Be honest. The person you’re trying to attract will eventually agree to meet you if you have written an eye catching profile. Eventually the “real” you will pop out. You don’t want to get dumped once your feelings are involved.

Statistics show that people can only keep up a façade of pretending to be something other than they are for approximately 3-6 months (there have been cases of years but that’s not the norm). If you want to find Mr./Mrs. Right, adhere to the honesty policy and represent yourself exactly as you are and not want you want others to perceive you.

Be clever and funny in your profile but be sincere. (Think of the online dating profile as if you were actually speaking to them in person for the first time.) If you’re funny, then show it in your writing. Don’t tell someone how funny you are, e.g. “I’m funny and have a great sense of humor.” That won’t make them a believer.

Here is an example of something funny and clever. Football fans will enjoy this one. (This is not for your profile, but used as an example of funny lines I have used when talking to an audience.):

“If your partner is more concerned about that 3rd and 1 on television, than the 4th and 23 in your own living room, then you might be another statistic on the playing field of love. Tell them not to try for a 58 yard field goal, go for six instead.”

Do you see what I’m writing about? Word pictures are very powerful tools that help draw the reader in and help to reveal who you are and what you’re about.

A Picture Says It All

Another important aspect of your online dating profile is pictures. Show them a picture of you. A picture speaks volumes about who you are. If you say you are sporty but have a picture of you sitting on a couch, what does that say? Use a picture of you on a bike, in a race, waterskiing, etc. Don’t use a High School picture if you are in your 20’s or older. Use a recent picture. They will find out what you look like when they meet you. Why draw someone in and then have them ditch you if you don’t look the same?

The eyes reveal a lot in a picture. If they sparkle with what’s called a “catch light,” the viewer will be more drawn to you. (A catch light is the little light that shows up on the pupil). If your eyes look suave, the viewer will probably click you away.

Avoid Turn-Offs

Make sure to do a spelling and grammar check before you post to an online dating site. Words that are spelt incorrectly and bad punctuation can tune a lot of people out and then they will click you off.

A few last words of advice: Forget about negativity in your profile and don’t talk about ex-relationships. That will give the reader a sense that you are a serial dater and perhaps a heartbreaker.

Avoid phrases like: “I don’t play games.”; “I love long walks on the beach, candlelight dinners, and romantic nights by the fire.” You can show them that when you meet them.

Every person I have surveyed in the past has said that lines such as the above are red flags and a sign that he/she is a “player.”

Online dating can be fun, exciting and successful, but be safe and enjoy the process. When you finally connect with someone on an online dating site, agree to meet at a coffee shop during the day. Never go off in their car no matter how safe they seem, always take yours.

If you’re nervous, as most of us are, prepare for your first encounter just as you would when vying for a promotion at work. Practice ahead of time! Make up a little 3×5 flash card set with subjects you are comfortable talking about or questions that are conversation initiators (forget about the weather, that’s a dried up subject).

Here are a few you can use that are sure to spark some interest:

* Read or watch the news ahead of time and discuss current events. Stick to positive uplifting ones and stay away from politics and religion. Example: Recently in the news there was a story about an autistic boy whose lifetime dream was to play basketball. To be close to the sport he did all the dirty jobs for both the boys and girls teams at his school. The last game of the season he was allowed on the court and scored a slam dunk.

* Talk about your family (positively). Example: I have two brothers and one sister. Growing up we…

* Liven up the conversation with topics of any recent travels. Example: Recently I traveled to Washington State to see the Fish Market in Seattle. Talk about your experiences there and what you saw.

* Ask about their career and how they happened upon it. Example: What do you do for a living? What made you decide on that career path? Did you go to school for your career choice?

* Ask about their family (if they shy away, you need to also). Example: Do you have brothers or sisters? Does your family live close?

These are just a few topics. If you can’t think of any yourself pour over the Internet for resources on topics of conversation. While I gave you a few suggestions above, there are many more I am sure you can come up with.

In the dating world, it seems that everyone expects the love of their life to fall from a tree and knock them dizzy with bliss. The facts of the matter are hardly as hit-and-miss as our secret desires would like them to be. When someone has a spell of good luck, it’s rarely because of some undeserved, haphazard gift bestowed upon them. If you look back to the period prior to any favorable happenings, you’ll discover a lot of hard work and planning were most likely involved. There is truth in the belief that the effort you put into something will be equal to the result you receive. Where people usually go wrong with this formula is extending the wrong type of effort. The same is true for finding a life mate.

If you don’t discern what you want or expect from your life, you’re never going to get it. You wouldn’t expect a business person to start a new business without researching the field and discovering if it’s a suitable fit. Yet, people consistently dive into the dating pool without first making sure of what they want. The fact that someone shows a bit of interest does not mean they are a suitable match for you. In the end, it isn’t just strong affection or love that makes a relationship work. It’s how compatible you are and how you deal with the little day-to-day things that count. The only way to truly discover what you need from a relationship is to actually plan and research exactly what you want.

When you are ready to seriously begin your quest for finding your life mate, use the following steps to help you get started.

Step 1: Do Your Research No great plan or endeavor can really get off the ground without research. Applying this to your love life may seem strange, but it really only takes a new perspective to get things going. First, analyze your past relationships. What traits or qualities did you really like about your previous partners? Write them down. Then take a look at what aspects of their personalities or your relationship that you disliked. Write those down as well.

You’ll probably get a fairly clear idea of your ideal mate at this point. However, don’t just stop with looking into the past. You’ll get an even more complete picture if you take a look at the people around you who have influenced your overall concept of the ideal relationship. Your parents or other family members’ relationships will affect your opinions greatly. Do the same comparison of likes and dislikes for them. If there are other friends or role models, be sure to analyze those as well.

Step 2: Understand Your Desires
Truly knowing yourself allows you to understand all of your strengths and weaknesses. Once you’re comfortable with what those are, you can find ways to make them work for you. For instance, if you’d rather eat dirt than clean, you know you’ll always need a housekeeper. You also have some more insight on what traits your perfect partner needs to have, in this case a high tolerance for sloppiness. For some of you, the weakness may be an insecurity issue. In this case, while eventually you may get over it, you probably don’t want to get involved with a social butterfly. You’re going to be a lot happier with someone who is a little more reserved in public. Some traits or qualities wouldn’t be considered deal breakers, while others are must haves. Each person is different, so these qualifiers will be unique to each individual. Your job is to figure out the must-have characteristics of your ideal partner.

First, define what you want and need. You did most of this in step one. Now it’s time to expand on your discoveries and get a complete picture of your ideal relationship. Make sure to include small snippets of things you’ve always envisioned doing. For instance, do you imagine someone who enjoys cuddling on the couch while watching scary movies with the snow falling outside? Whatever it is, make sure to write it down so you can refer back to it and make changes as necessary.

Next, you need to determine what certain terminology actually means to you. You won’t be able to express what you expect from a partner if you don’t even know what it is yourself. Take a while and really figure out what exactly does love mean to you. What is your idea of “romance”? What are your views regarding sex? What does marriage mean to you? What about commitment?

Now it’s time to look at what specific requirements you’d like your potential life partner to have. How important is education? What about their level of independence or financial stability? What stage in their career should they be at? What about religious beliefs? Is having a different romantic style a deal breaker?

By knowing ahead of time exactly what it is you’re looking for, you’ll be able to tell early in a relationship if the person you are with matches your criteria. This will allow you to end bad relationships before anything progresses too far. In addition, you’ll be able to move ahead with more confidence when you do find that particular someone who meets your expectations.

Step 3: Put Your Discoveries into Practice
So, you now know what you want, but how do you go about actually getting it? Since there are shelves of books dedicated to this pursuit, I’m just going to give you a few pointers to steer you in the right direction.

The first tip should be fairly obvious, but it’s amazing how often it’s over-looked. You’ve just dedicated all this time to figuring out what makes you tick, so it’s time to use it to your advantage. If you’re looking for someone to date, don’t go to a place you’re not likely to meet anyone with those qualifications. Try to find the best possible places where the odds of meeting someone with your particular interests are higher. If you love to cook, join some cooking classes. If you love to read, join a book club. If you love dancing, take some dance lessons. A little research into what your city offers could pay off quite nicely. When you talk with someone you are interested in, try bringing up the hobbies and interests you enjoy. Get a gauge early on as to whether you actually have things in common. This is also a great conversational segue to asking for an actual date.

When you go on your dates, do things that reflect how you want your marriage or long-term relationship to be. For instance, if you enjoy shopping, take your date on a few trips to the mall. If you love the outdoors, let your dates reflect that. Not only will you be finding out if you both enjoy the same things, you’ll also be giving your potential partner a better glimpse at who you really are. Even if things don’t work out romantically, if you discover you share common interests, you’ve at least gained a friendship.

At the end of a first date comes that awkward moment when you must decide if you want to kiss her or not.

Dating tips for GUYS only Also, if you do kiss her it had better be good to make a favorable impression. It may not be fair, but some single women will judge you on your first kiss as to whether she would be attracted to you want to date you again.

In other words, she must feel some chemistry when she kisses you.

If you are a lousy kisser, then you’re going to be a failure at creating good chemistry between you and your date. Is chemistry important on a first date? You bet it is! And if you’re a great kisser, you’re going to turn her on and have an edge on the other guys that date her that are lousy kissers.

So, just exactly what makes a good kisser and kisses that single women that you go out with won’t forget? The key is to be soft and gentle and follow her lead…that’s all there is to it.

on the first day of my service,i went to the my office very fast.suddenlly at the bus stand i saw the girl who sat at the bus-stand.for a sort time i only saw that girl.i saw her’s eyes which looks like stars.ofen when,i went to the office, i saw that beautiful girl.I don’t sleep very well,i don’t work porperally.one day i decied,i meet that girl& talk with her.After that day we mat every day&talk with each other for a long time.one i invite her to my house for a tea.we took tea& i saw her my house.After one year i feel that i love her.so,i decied that i tell her.I went to at her home &i bell her home’door.she opend the door.I tell her my feelings about her.I cleen tell her “I LOVE YOU”.she also replied me that”I LOVE YOU “also.After than two months we married.we went for honeymoon at hawaii the paradise of love.

2. If you think you’re fat, you probably are. Don’t ask us.

3. Learn to work the toilet seat: if it’s up put it down.

4. Don’t cut your hair. Ever.

5. Birthdays, Valentines, and Anniversaries are not quests to see if he can find the perfect present, again!

6. If you ask a question you don’t want an answer to, expect an answer you don’t want to hear.

7. Sometimes, he’s not thinking about you. Live with it.

8. Don’t ask him what he’s thinking about unless you are prepared to discuss such topics as navel lint, the shotgun formation and monster trucks.

9. Get rid of your cat. And no, it’s not different, it’s just like every other cat.

10. Dogs are better than ANY cats. Period.

11. Sunday = Sports. It’s like the full moon or the changing of the tides. Let it be.

12. Shopping is not a sport.

13. Anything you wear is fine. Really.

14. You have enough clothes.

15. You have too many shoes.

16. Crying is blackmail. Use it if you must, but don’t expect us to like it.

17. Your brother is an idiot, you ex-boyfriend is an idiot and your Dad probably is too.

18. Ask for what you want. Subtle hints don’t work.

19. No, he doesn’t know what day it is. He never will. Mark anniversaries on a calendar.

20. Yes, pissing standing up is more difficult than peeing from point blank range. We’re bound to miss sometimes.

21. Most guys own two or three pairs of shoes — What makes you think we’d be any good at choosing which pair, out of thirty, would look good with your dress?

22. Yes and No are perfectly acceptable answers.

23. A headache that lasts for 17 months is a problem. See a doctor.

24. Your Mom doesn’t have to be our best friend.

25. Foreign films are best left to foreigners.

26. Check you oil.

27. Don’t give us 50 rules when 25 will do.

28. Don’t fake it. We’d rather be ineffective than deceived.

29. It is neither in your best interest or ours to take the quiz together.

30. Anything we said 6 or 8 months ago is inadmissible in an argument. All comments become null and void after 7 days.

31. If you don’t dress like the Victoria’s Secret girls, don’t expect us to act like soap opera guys.

32. If something we said can be interpreted two ways, and one of the ways makes you sad and angry, we meant the other one.

33. Let us ogle. If we don’t look at other women, how can we know how pretty you are?

34. You can either ask us to do something OR tell us how you want it done — not both.

35. Whenever possible, please say whatever you have to say during commercials.

36. Christopher Columbus didn’t need directions, and neither do we.

37. Women wearing Wonder bras and low-cut blouses lose their right to complain about having their boobs stared at.

38. Consider Golf a mini-vacation from you. We need it, just like you do.

39. Telling us that the models in the men’s magazines are airbrushed makes you look jealous and petty and it’s certainly not going to deter us from reading the magazine.

40. The relationship is never going to be like it was the first two months we were going out.

AND FINALLY, THE NUMBER ONE RULE:
1. Don’t rub the lamp if you don’t want the genie to come out.

Tell me if i am stupid or not everyone. I had all these plans for me and my “special someone” but when i went to clear it by her dad he said NO! NO! NO! Here is what i planned. I was going to take her snow tubbing with a few of our friends. I had also planned to go and eat at a resturant where i had arranged for my friend to play “our song” So i was really upset But i did not let on to the best of my ability. But here is the good part of the story. We finally got something worked out. So there it was our plans for Saturday night. We decided to go out to eat at a really nice little resturant in town and it was really good . After dinner we went to the mall and then back to her house to watch a movie. WE had already watched Finding Nemo earlier this afternoon. But of course i found a way to screw it up. Well I showed up late to her house by 20 minutes. Man that sucked. And when i showed up the only gifts i had was a dog that barked the blushing bears and a heart shaped box of candy from the Russel company. Then i went out and bought a gils card. So tell me ladies how bad did i mess this one up.

I was meeting my friend, and when we met up i was surprised to find that she had brought her boyfriend. We were going to see harry potter 4. In the film, i ended up next to him, because my friend wanted the end seat. He flirted with me throughout the film. After, my mate threw up, and had to go home. John (her bf) asked if we should go pizza hut. I was starving so i agreed. after, we ended up kissing. We went back to his house, and made out. We were almost caught by my friend, but he managed to send her away at the door. I was drunk, so after she left, we carried on. I Felt terrible after. A few days l8r, her asked me on a date. I agreed, to tell him we couldn’t see each other. As i went to tell him, he started to kiss me across the table. To my horror, i saw my teacher walk in. In shock, i coughed, and John looked at me in horror. On monday, my teacher said to my m8 ‘im sorry, you and john were good together’ as i was sitting next to her, she assumed she was ok about me and John, of course, my m8 didn’t no. ‘its good you can accept that Kaylighs with him though’ miss added. I had a lot of explaining to do. Going to that film ruined a good friendship, and got me a bd reputation. Karen, i am so sorry.

My bad date story is really evil. Okay, here it goes. I started liking this guy called Matt. I don’t know why I liked him, because he was ugly, but he was really sweet and nice. Whatever. I went to a drama try-out, and made it, then in Math I got a n a (I really suck in Math), and my parents gave me 100$. I thought life could not get any better. So, I asked my friend to go and ask out Matt. He said ‘I’ll think about. Come and ask me again next break’. So, she did. The bell had just rung when she asked him and he said ‘I’ll tell you tommorow’. The next day I go up to him and he says (well acculy he screamed it and everyone hurd it) ‘NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!’. I did not really care, which I thought was weird. The next day was the school dance. My friends pushed me to go, so I went. Matt was at the dance. I had never danced with anyone so, I asked him he said ‘ no!’, and I did not care. AGAIN!!!!! Then my friend went up to him and said why do you not want to go out with her and not want to dance with her. The meanest part happends her. He said ‘ Because I don’t ****ing know her!!! I hate her!!! She is ugly!’. I was sooooooooooooooooooooo hurt!!! The next week he askes out this tottaly fat, ugly, fat lipped girl out. She said ‘yes’ and they went out for 3 weeks. She broke up with him, because of what my friends told her. He has asked out 5 more girls. 3 who were my bff’s. I NEVER talked to him after that.