This lie’s become a part of me
For months, I’ve played this game
Acting like it doesn’t hurt
Each time I hear his name

Ignoring what’s inside of me
Pretending I’ve moved on
As if the feelings I once had
For him are somehow gone

Spending each and every day
With happiness and laughs
Forgetting all our memories
Avoiding photographs

But last night when I saw him
For the first time since he left
My heart stopped for a moment…
I couldn’t catch my breath

When suddenly it hit me
As the tears started to flow
That even after all this time…
I just can’t let him go

The nights became cold,
Darkness surrounding me..
I held him close..
Closer to me.
He wrapped his arms
Around my naked body..
Caressing me,
Feeling me.
Kissing my ears gently..
Soft whispers
Of his undying love..
He lusts for me.

I long for such intimacy,
Such orgasmic fantasy
Of lit candles and fallen rose petals
Surrounding us
Our bed,
As i lie beside him
Watching him..
Each movement he made.

I love the way he looks into my eyes,
Seducing me
With such innocent,
Sensual eyes.
I lie closer to him
Our bodies merged..
Inseperatable,

A bond so..
Unbreakable,
He melts me,
Tease me,
Each touch,
Heats me up like fire..
I purrrrr…
Each kiss,
So electrifying..
I give myself to him.
My body,my soul..
My hungar grows
Feeding into his skin
I lust for moments like this.
Ambiencing myself in such warmth
Such beauty..
Such pretty grace.

I lead his hand over
My left breast,
My heart..
As each heart beats for him..
Thump.Thump.Thump.
Each beating of my heart
Spells out his name..
And how much i long for
Something so beautiful
So sacred..
He’s like an angel,
A gift from the gods
In heaven..
He spreads his wings
And wrapped them around me
Holding me tightly,
Never letting me go..
Hidden in his arms
So securely..
I felt loved..
A feeling so magical,
So intense,
I wish for something
So special to never end..
I looked at him
With a hint of
Curiousity in my eyes..
Who is this stranger
Right beside?
His familiar face
Stared back at me,
No words were spoken
Silence breaking free.
All he did was smile
And caress me,
My body..
His sensuous grace roused
My lustful desire
To taste him sexually.
Such temptations
Once forbidden,
Start to grow inside of me.
I whisper those words
Into his ears,
“I need you,i bleed you,i would give up breathing for you”
And from this moment on,
I suddenly recognise him
As the ghost..
The man from my dreams.
My darkest desire
Of my heart.
I wish for this moment
To last forever
Til death do us apart.

10 Times he broke my heart
9 Times he lied from the start
8 Times he made me cry
7 Times I wished i’d die 6 Times he told me sorry
5 Times I believed him
4 Times I cried aloud
3 Times this made him proud
2 Times he hit me with his hand
Dam* all this for 1 man!!!

I only want you
and forever I do
I love you so much
I love the way we touch
And the sound of your voice
and I love your smile
and your kind, thoughtful, loving way
that you bring joy and happiness to my life evryday
I love you today
as I have from the start
and I will love you forever
with all of my heart

Conservative estimates are that 60 percent of men and 40 percent of woman will have an extramarital affair. These figures are even more significant when we consider the total number of marriages involved-since it’s unlikely that all the men and women having affairs happen to be married to each other. If even half of the women having affairs (or 20 percent) are married to men not included in the 60 percent having affairs, then at least one partner will have an affair in approximately 80 percent of all marriages.

Do you suspect your partner is doing the bump and grind with the keyboard?

Look for these online signs of extramarital affairs

* He closes the laptop whenever you enter the room or he starts hiding windows.
* He password protects his computer with the screensaver or the computer itself.
* If his cyber lover is nearby he may start leaving work for “lunch”.
* If she is far away you can watch your phone bill. But with the new era of phone cards that are cheaper than local service he may be using those.
* Are you getting more hang up calls than you are used to? Is he whispering into the phone when he answers it or is he always just hanging up when you walk into the room?
* Is he volunteering to go to the post office all of a sudden? Or always going to the store for “you”?
* He is “talking” more during sex or making “new” request from you in the bedroom.
* Is he staying up “working” on the computer after you go to bed a lot? Does he get up before you and heads straight for the computer?

60% of married men and 40% of married woman cheat sometime during their marriage! That is a FACT!

My jaw dropped when I read that. The same article also said that women cheaters are on the rise!!

Today in America conservative estimates are that infidelity occurs in close to 80% of all marriages!

That means the odds are much higher that your partner will cheat rather than remain faithful!!

I know, it’s a hard pill to swallow. Many spouses live in a state of denial, never thinking that our partner would display such lack of loyalty. But the fact is that spousal cheating is going on daily in our society and is actually common.

However, an even faster growing epidemic in America is spouses cheating online or cyber-cheating. Cyber-cheating is the act of having relationships of a sexual nature over the internet.

With the advent of the world wide web, there are hundreds of websites dedicated to helping cheating spouses find partners. Cheaters can easily locate a partner, and then coordinate and carry out sexual relationships thru these online cheating sites. They can even have what is called cyber sex! … and YES! … cybersex is Cheating.

Men - Advice and secrets about what a man thinks

What do men want? Most men want a sense of security but besides that they want too feel they can trust you. Men also want to take care of women to some degree (not completely just enough to feel manly). Men usually like a little excitement in their lives.

Men want a women who will make them feel good especially in these times where most women have gotten bad advice from TV that tells them lies on how they should be.
The point is that Women should do their best to make the man in their life happy and the Man should do the same for her no matter what the brain washed people on TV say.
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A man’s desire for excitement comes from their animal instinct to find food for their mate and desire to chase women. Women are naturally passive.  Women have a desire to nurture a child…men desire excitement, competition and stuff like that.

The mind of men

Most men are not psychic and therefore can’t guess what women want. Men don’t work at the same intuitive level that many women do. Men are understand “spaces” and visual things more accurately them women. Women deal with communication and socialize more accurately then men. Its just the way nature works (in fact, it’s been scientifically proven). We can’t all be the same. Its just the way nature is.

A Man’s physical desires

At times men can get too excited and do things at a purely animalistic way with women but they can control themselves if they are gently persuaded and not manipulated. Many times women try to “control” men through flirting, teasing, sax, or other things men desire instead of doing it for mutual enjoyment. Those kind of games are a form of abuse. Those games are usually the reason men start blocking their feelings or hiding them. This blocking of feelings and hiding leads to emotional breakdowns or violent explosions. Unfortunately men will usually go through all kinds of things to get their desires fulfilled even if they’re being emotionally played with. Sad but true. Sure things might go a women’s way for that day but lies and emotional games usually end relationships or lead to violence.

What’s one of the strongest desires a man has?

Men have a natural and usually passionate desire to pursue women. It’s in a man’s jeans (I mean genes). Finding a good woman is what most men desire. Anyway, the best way to live happily around men is to be honest and considerate. Its quite simple but it usually works best when both  people are (unless one is “sick” in someway and the other is trying to heal the relationship). Most men can be amazing individuals if they are treated with respect and so on.

Of course, not all men are alike and most are different… the fact remains that some things have been proved by science to be true and generally correct and women should know that.  Most men can be understood with some generalizations (most of the time but not always). I’m sure there are plenty of men who don’t fit all of these simple characteristics but their natural animal instincts still dwells deep within all of them and here you’ll read about it. Hopefully you can learn about a man in your life by analyzing his actions and taking all he shows you into consideration so you can truly understand him and live happily.

Can you remember when you and your special someone were first together, the beginning of your relationship when you couldn’t leave one another‘s side and every one around could see that you‘re a pair of newlyweds, passionately in love?

What if there was a way to feel the passion and desire you felt when you were first together? Could you have a more satisfying relationship if you could improve your sex life? Would an improved sex life make you more content in other aspects of your life? Research has proven that physical intimacy not only improves your marriage and brings you closer, a satisfying love life also builds your immune system, assists in getting adequate rest, decreases tension, and generates a number of other health advantages.

The typical marriage will develop a rut within the first 7 years that exhausts the life from the relationship. Making love is just another chore and foreplay is quickly nonexistent. So, can you really experience the exciting sex life you shared when you were first together? Can you really after 2 decades together and 2 children, pleasure in the same feelings you did on your honeymoon?

You will never believe how easy it actually is to heat up your sex life or what a difference it will make in your marriage. Make your sex life a major importance in your relationship. Designate plenty of time for romance each week. Without special moments alone, you and your partner will never have a fulfilling relationship.

Keep in mind, the foundation for a better love life is suggestive and exciting foreplay. Research has proven that the best sexual encounters typically follow an extreme and spine-tingling session of uninhibited foreplay, occasionally starting at the restaurant and mounting through the evening.

The stimulation you enjoy before sex doesn’t need to be extravagant or elaborate. There’s no need to put on attire and pretend to be Tarzan and Jane. The best tips for great foreplay are keep it simple, try some fresh ideas, and focus on making your partner feel heated with desire
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Eagerness escalates when you experience something new. Sex games are developed to go beyond your typical bedroom pleasures by initiating passionate and exciting situations and experiences. Engaging in sex games more frequently is one of the best, and easiest, ways to achieve a better sex life.

So the two of you have been seeing each other for quite some time now. But so far, the two of you have only been meeting up on days or nights that the two of you have agreed to designate as date days or date nights. You may have even spent the night at his place, or he at your place, probably once or twice before since the two of you first hooked up. But somehow, you do not seem confident yet to call him your boyfriend.

Men are stereotyped to be commitment-phobics, but while there are plenty of exemptions out there, this condition is indeed true to some of the members of these human subspecies. If you are in this situation that you are with a guy but you cannot with full confidence call him your man, it is best not to push it and let him take his time to get used to you. Just be aware of the signs that will tell you that he is ready to call you his girlfriend and that he is ready to be referred to as your boyfriend.

How do you know that he is finally getting over his phobia for commitment and is finally getting serious with your relationship?

First, he agrees to meet with you outside your designated date days or date nights, maybe for a casual movie, a Sunday lunch, or a party with his friends. This means he is now including you in his life and is maybe looking forward to your presence in his life for the long haul.

Another sure sign that he is getting serious with you is that when he speaks of you, he tells the person he is talking to that the two of you are dating without any hesitation or trepidation. Take note the use of the word dating instead of just hanging out, chilling or getting together. It is an obvious hint that he no longer considers himself available.

Yet another sign that you may want to look out for is the fact that he tries to hide his problems and issues from you. It is not that he does not trust you; it is more like he is being considerate of your feelings and does not want to burden you or push you away with whatever it is he is dealing with. Only a jerk will unload all his issues on you on the first date. Eventually, your guy will learn to share those matters with you.

Lastly, you would know if a guy is getting serious with you if he manages to talk about his ex in casual terms, without any hint of drama or trauma. It means that he has moved on and is willing to give love another try with you.

Of course, if the two of you have been seeing each other for a really long time now and yet he does not seem to have any intention of taking your relationship seriously, feel free to dump him and find someone who will give you the respect and the commitment that you deserve.

If I knew it would be the last time that I’d see you fall asleep,
I would tuck you in more tightly and pray to God, your soul to keep.
If I knew it would be the last time that I see you walk out the door,
I would give you a hug and kiss and call you back for one more.
If I knew it would be the last time I’d hear your voice lifted up in praise,
I would video tape each action and word, so I could play them back day after day.
If I knew it would be the last time, I could spare an extra minute or two to stop and say “I love you,”
instead of assuming you would KNOW I do.
If I knew it would be the last time I would be there to share your day,
assuming you’ll have so many more, so I can let just this one slip away.
For surely there’s always tomorrow to make up for an oversight,
and we always get a second chance to make everything right.
There will always be another day to say our “I love you’s”,
And certainly there’s another chance to say our “Anything I can do’s?”
But just in case I might be wrong,
and today is all I get,
I’d like to say how much I love you
and I hope we never forget,
Tomorrow is not promised to anyone, young or old alike,
And today may be the last chance you get to hold your loved one tight..
So if you’re waiting for tomorrow, why not do it today?
For if tomorrow never comes, you’ll surely regret today,
That you didn’t take that extra time for a smile, a hug, or a kiss
and you were too busy to grant someone,
what turned out to be their one last wish.
So hold your loved ones close today,
whisper in their ear,
Tell them how much you love them
and that you’ll always hold them dear,
Take time to say “I’m sorry,” “please forgive me,” “thank you” or “it’s okay”.
And if tomorrow never comes, you’ll have no regrets about today.

kiss your lips,
hold your hand,
kiss you in the rain if only i can…

let the rain fall upon us all,
and we will be outside making love at midnight…

take me by the hand,
hold me tight,
kiss goodnight,
as if its our only night…

we’re wet in the rain…
let it fall, let it fall,
as we kiss in the rain…

my arms around your waist,
your arms around my neck,
im pullin you in closer as we slowly kiss,
this is our day,
as the rain falls…
we laugh we run,
we dont hide till the sun rise…
we kiss,
we hug,
we sneak into the tree house above…
there we lay,
sweet and in love,
its all we need…
its you and me and the rest is history…
this is our day…
if only everyday was as beautiful…
the rain would fall… we kiss and laugh till we fall,
wouldn’t that be a wonderful day?
your smile makes all the stars in the sky shine so bright and so high…
your my shooting star…
this is our day…
as we kissed in the rain…

Maybe your heart is beating wildly or maybe it is broken. Either way, you wish you could say what you feel, but every time you try, you come up short. Welcome to the complicated world of love! Take comfort in knowing that poets and statesmen have struggled with the same question–”How do I write the perfect love letter?” Here are some simple guidelines that can help.

1. Presentation. Use beautiful stationery (a neutral, soft color, such as cream or white) and a flair pen with black or brown ink–no blues, greens or reds! Remember, your Love Letter is being written to someone special. Hand-written letters are best. This is personal–you are not writing a business letter!

2. Ambience. Go to a secluded place and put on soft, romantic music. A quiet room would be nice. Dim the lights. Stimulate a romantic mood.

3. Keepsake. Date your Love Letter (month, day, year). This is a letter that will be treasured and remembered. You can bet that it will be read over and over and safeguarded in a special place.

4. Greeting. Choose an endearing salutation. Don’t be formal. Use you love’s first name. For example: “My dearest Jennifer . . .” or “My darling Matt . . .”

5. Beginning. Start your Love Letter by telling your beloved your reasons for writing. For instance: “I have lain awake many sleepless nights trying to compose words that might adequately describe the feelings of my heart. But every time I have made the attempt, I have failed miserably. Please forgive my poor effort and accept a trite and simple phrase: I love you. I think I can say it no better than that . . . .” Never insult your beloved’s feelings or belittle yourself by saying something like: “I know you probably don’t feel this way,” or “You must think I’m crazy.” If you are timid in your Love Letter, your attempt at conveying heartfelt words will fall flat and might be misunderstood.

6. Body. The body of the Love Letter should include reasons for why you fell in love. Here are some ideas:

* recall when you fell in love with him/her
* explain how your life has changed for the better
* describe how much you miss your love when you’re apart
* explain that you can’t imagine life without him/her
* list some of the many things you have in common
* tell how wonderful and complete he/she makes you feel
* recall some special moments you’ve shared together
* mention times you’ve picked him/her out of a crowd
* list qualities that set him/her apart from everyone else

Avoid being casual, too light-hearted, or openly erotic. A Love Letter is a letter of respect that coveys deep, difficult-to-express feelings. Don’t discount the impact of poetry in place of, or in addition to, your words. Maybe your beloved has a favorite author or poet. It will be seen as a compliment if you take the time to quote someone he/she admires. Be sure to give proper credit where it’s due. Don’t forget the Internet is a great place to find that poem or song you are trying to quote!

Be real. Your Love Letter should be a carefully crafted work of art, but it also needs to sound sincere. You want your Love Letter to make your beloved fall in love, not fall into laughter. Be confident as you express your emotions, dreams, and vulnerability.

NOTE: don’t expect your first attempt will be the letter you send. Practice on scrap paper before you start writing on your good stationery. REVISE, then leave it for a few hours, then return and revise it again. Read it again in the morning before you send it. You’ll improve it, as well as have fewer regrets–guaranteed!

7. Closing. End your Love Letter with carefully worded prose: “There, I have said it. I can rest now. And as I dream, I will dream of you.” Make your closing upbeat and positive.

8. Valediction. Don’t just end with: “Love, Eric.” Even if you said, “All my love,” it would be better. You become even more romantic by writing something like: “Dream of me, my love . . . .” What you want is a simple, yet heartfelt goodbye: “With undying love,” or “Forever yours.” Remember, you may think this is too sappy, but your loved one will treasure each word. Be prepared to have it quoted to you in years to come.

9. Insert. Include a special extra: petals from a flower, sprinkles of stars, a teabag of your favorite tea . . . . You get the idea. That little extra effort means you really put some thought (and heart) into this.

10. Neatness counts. Gently fold the Love Letter and place it in a neatly addressed envelope–hopefully, one that matches your stationery. The correct way is to fold a small stationery sheet (or sheets) in half with the text on the inside. Place the letter in the envelope with the crease at the bottom and the salutation facing the back. Hand address the envelope. Remember what your elementary teacher taught you about penmanship–make sure your love is able to read your writing! Add a stamp that looks romantic–the Garden Bouquet stamps are nice–and affix it upside down. It is a custom that means, “I love you.” Drop the letter in the mail. That’s it! Expect an emotional response. And here’s another tip: buy some breath mints–you’ll need them!

11. Be expressive. Here are some popular words to use in your Love Letter: angel, angelic, lover, giving, alluring, tempting, sensual, sensuality, seeing, tasting, touching, holding, caressing, memories, memorable, darling, gorgeous, absence, velvet, voyage, beautiful, vision, elation, blossoms, happy, kisses, innocent, passion, dreaming, delirious, temptation, complete, desire, content, embrace, rainbow, rose, adoring, stars, privileged, heart.

This is the window to my heart
I just want us to be free
There ain’t no freedom where we are
Ain’t no wishes in these stars
Ain’t no reasons to believe
But don’t worry baby
Don’t you worry
Maybe this is what we need
A little bruise and a little bleeding
Some space that we can’t breathe in
Some silence in between
So cry for me baby
And I’ll cry for you
And we’ll both break down
and we’ll both break through
Find our way you will face the truth
We both will be stronger
And we’ll lie down in a loneliness
Wake up with our sad regrets
Even know we don’t know it yet
We both will be stronger
We both will be stronger
I can’t believe you’re really gone now
But I know it’s all the best
And I know that we were right
But I still reach for you each night
In midnight it hurts like hell
So baby This is the window to my heart
I just want us to be for real
Baby I’m sorry for the way things are
Get back is always hard
And we both will be stronger

If you’re one of those guys telling to yourself that Antonio Banderas might be a little prettier then you but again your IQ beats that of Einstein by an inch, than the next lines were written for you. You have to know how to use your advantage against a two-digit IQ macho-man and this is no easy deal. Some studies even say that intelligence alone is actually not too sexy to most people. Therefore it would be wiser to use intelligent ways to seduce a woman then just act smart.

There are more ways to do this, some better and some worse. For example, you can be immoral enough to use your wits just to have sex, by manipulating women. For this “hit-and-run” approach you’ll need a little more than just your intelligence, you’ll have to know how the human mind, women’s in particular, work in order to outsmart them, control the game and win it using their own weapons. But before you get to keen on the idea just remember that there are other, more honest ways of winning a woman’s admiration.

All of our actions, interacting with the opposite sex included, involve a little risk taking. If you think you are the hit-and-run type of guy maybe you should watch Cruel Intentions and destroy all the excitement that comes with the game. But if you’re not then just “go with the flow” and see what happens. Gamble a little and let romance play its natural role in a relationship.

If you take things even further into consideration you might end up concluding that every single word and gesture we do when we interact with another person has its risky part in it. Saying “HI” to a stranger on the street, asking someone on a date, asking for her phone number in the middle of the date or trying to get the first kiss at the end of the night… There are always two possibilities: the YES possibility and the NO possibility. But would it be so exciting if you wouldn’t take all these risks?

Compare this interaction with a snow boulder! With each risk you decided to take the boulder gets bigger and heavier. And if all goes well it will get big enough to become unstoppable. That’s when you can say that you have a real relation.

Playing the game smartly also includes playing it honestly. The hit-and-run guys pose as the feminist sensitive men while using their wits to control the game and reach their goals. But sincerity is about something else, it’s about being yourself.

More than that it is about being comfortable with who you are entirely. It’s about doing what you want to do and not fear that you will lose something because of your actions. And most importantly it’s about honestly not want something in particular from a woman because seducing a woman is not a goal in itself, is not a hunting game, nor a chess game. It’s just our way of finding the other half.

Are you married, but wishing your relationship was more like it was before you were married? You are not alone. When a relationship starts out, both men and women are interested in making a good impression, getting a positive response, having a good time, and increasing intimacy. The relationship feels exciting, the lover appears like the perfect match, and the desire to commit to each other is high.

Following the marriage commitment, the very same things that at first made the relationship so exciting are the very same things that fall away. After all, why work on making a good impression if someone has already committed their life to you? For men especially, often the highest level of intimacy they desire (sex) has already been obtained. Why put in even more time talking when there is no greater intimacy to be had and there are other things to do? On top of this, the things that were previously fun activities for the couple become routine (even a rut).

When a child comes along, focus on each other tends to turn to focus on the child. Although this as first renews sharing and adds vitality, it later increases the routine, decreases available time and energy, and increases stress. For this reason, couples are encouraged not to have children until their relationship is stable and strong.

Becoming roommates rather than husband and wife is usually a gradual process of gradually increasing emotional distance. Once this distance reaches a level that is uncomfortable for both the husband and the wife, there is a crisis. Depending on the way the crisis is managed, the couple continue to be roommates, have increasing conflict until breaking up, or redefine their marriage to allow for a positive change.

Redefining or renewing a relationship is the process of moving closer together. There are three components to creating a healthy relationship:

1. CHANGING VISIONS–Either the husband, wife, or both need to clearly discover what kind of relationship they want to have. So many couples become embroiled in trying to fix the problems, that they never really stop to consider what they want. A counselors will often use this problem focused approach that at best can get people back to where they were before. A relationship coach, on the other hand, will use the technique of creating a vision. Visions, desires, and goals, pull us toward them in a positive and exciting way. This makes for the possibility of an entirely new type of relationship to replace the old.

2. CHANGING BELIEFS–One of the most debilitating beliefs is that one ’s partner must change before the relationship can improve. The fact is that one person must make the first move and that person can be either partner. It is not necessary to have a simultaneous start up. For example, a person who is unhappy in their marriage may find that by changing their job or starting a new hobby, they become happier with more of a zest for life. This, in turn, can make them more attractive to their partner. Misery loves company and when one person refuses to be miserable and makes positive life changes, the other partner is often pulled in that direction without any kind of coercion.

3. CHANGING STRATEGIES–People do what they know how to do. This means that they try to use the same strategies as in the past, but this time hoping to achieve different results. Even when couples put 100% of their effort into reviving their marriage by returning to what worked in the past, they will more than likely end up in the very same place. Trying harder to achieve different results using the same methods does not work. The number one strategy for creating a better relationship is getting help and support from someone who knows how to do that. It the person you see in the mirror has not had success in the area you want to improve, do you really want to put all your trust in his/her methods? If someone wants to quit smoking, which do you think would be better–hoping that you will develop the urge to quit smoking, trying to quit alone, buying a stop smoking self-help book, or committing to meeting regularly with an expert in smoking cessation? What would be the best strategy for achieving a healthy relationship?

An exercise that you can do now to begin changing your vision is to get a piece of paper and a pen. Write at the top of the paper, “My Dream Relationship.” Pretend you are not married. Imagine your fairy godmother grants you the wish of the man or woman of your dreams. Write down what that person is like physically and emotionally. What will you do with that person? Where will you go? Where will you live? What will your daily life with that person be like? The interesting thing about this exercise is that when husbands and wives who are emotionally distant do this exercise separately, they actually come up with many of the same ideas for their dream partner. When couples are distant, it is not usually because they want different things, but because they don’t know how to get what they want. Working on these areas of common desire with new and effective methods will bring new spark into the relationship and create the potential for more lasting, positive change.

Everyday on the way to work
You pass that flower shop
It never really mattered much
You had no reason to stop

One morning in mid July
You stopped and went inside
And bought a single white rose
You had nothing to hide

All day you tried to concentrate
but your mind was miles away
On the face of a girl you met
It was hard for you to stay

It was almost time to leave
Minutes seemed like hours
You were staring at that rose
With its amazing powers

The petals gently opened
And you looked deep inside
In the middle of that rose
Much to your surprise

Was the face of that girl
You’d met only the day before
She was sweetly smiling
And you wanted more

You rushed home from work
And what did you find there
A single white rose on your pillow
And a lock of her red hair

God gives us things for reasons
And we should never ask why
But if you get sent a white rose
Keep it by your side.